Sex life symptoms and conditions

I have had MIRENA for about two mths now. Not real sure about it . During intercourse my husband says he can feel it. I was told that he would not notice it there at all. Now he actually said it felt like it was poking him. How is this normal ? When I'm not bleeding we still can not enjoy our sex life because of MIRENA. I believve i'm going to have it removed. Has anyone else experienced this problem???

Your stories makes me feel much better. I've been battling with yeast infections on and off for the last five months. It's been scary and frustrating. Surprisingly I've been on NuvaRing for about 3 years and these symptoms have just begun to be a problem but they won't stop until the ring is out and my period starts. I've tried everything, I've changed soaps, changed to lube without parabens, stopped wearing cute underwear, started showering twice a day, and have used several types of over-the counter's. I've treated with so many over-the-counter creams for yeast infections that I'm getting concerned about what all that fungicide might do in the long run. They usually work but then the yeast infection will return. I think perhaps the NuvaRing may affect the chemistry inside the vagina making it more susceptible to yeast infections once one occurs. This has negatively affected my sex life with my fiance because sex stings and burns and I always get a yeast infection, I'd rather avoid it all together. I was going to go to the OBGYN and beg for Diflucan but from a previous post similar to my situation it may just be another temporary fix. I've never tried the pill but I'm going to switch this month and see if the yeast infections finally go away.

I was almost at four months before I realized something was wrong. I am in a new relationship and thought wow, maybe my new sex life is giving me a UTI, so I went and got tested because something wasn't right. Burning at the end of urination, lower back soreness, frequency to go and getting nothing. Totally uncomfortable. I couldn't believe after a week that I wasn't getting a positive result on the UTI test. There was also a lost sex drive almost right away. I thought I could just "power through that" as we women sometimes do. After finding this site yesterday afternoon I was identifying with too many of the symptoms posted here. I went this morning to have it removed. When I talked to my doctor about it she read as if from a script. Telling me none of my symptoms have been related to Mirena. She even went so far as to say maybe I did have bladder issues that were being masked by the shot. Ten years on the shot, and no issues. Four months on Mirena and I couldn't take it anymore.

What a relief to get it out, and thanks for sharing on here. I was surprised it developed after four months, but "everyone is different". I don't have any children and thought this was a good method for me. It wasn't, and that's ok.

After almost a year to date....I am experiencing a lot of the side effects lately that almost everyone has posted. I have two beautiful daughters and a loving husband. Here is my story. I had it put in Oct of 2008. I had not been on BC before b/c we were purposely starting a family. Well, I had it put in because I ended up getting pregnant for the 3rd time after having my 3month old (second child). Being pregnant so soon after giving birth was such an emotional roller coaster and caused a lot of stress for us both. Unfortunately I ended up having a miscarriage after 3months. When that happened, we decided that I needed an effective BC that I didn't have to think about everyday because I already had a 3month old and a 20 mo running around. This is what led us to getting the Mirena. So NOW that I stumbled upon this forum, I realized that I had been through a lot of the side effects that others have. I thought it was "normal" to go through what I did. At times, I thought it was my imagination. And now, I wish I would have spoken up about it sooner. I bled for 6 months straight thinking that this is what I had to go through to have years of light or no periods at all. It def put a wedge in my sex life with the hubby and not to mention my libido has been next to nothing. After the first 8 weeks of insertion, my hair fell out, but I blew it off because I thought it was due to the stress of the kids and the miscarriage. It fell out so terribly that I had to get a new hair cut to even it out. Fast forward to May of 2009, finally, my period is starting to last only 7 days and not like 3 weeks. Next thing you know, we are smooth sailing. Libido hasn't moved up a notch, but at least I knew when my period would come and how long it would last so that my hubby and I could have intimacy for once. Everything was fine all summer all the way up to last month (Sept 2009). Present day, now all of a sudden, my period has not shown up. Last time it came was 6weeks ago in Sept.. Kid you not, I'm having all the same symptoms of all my pregnancies. All last week including today I have had the following symptoms:
-Extreme dizziness with nausea
-Severe abdominal pain-like a sharp piercing pain on the left side
-lower back pain every single morning
-nose bleeds everyday, sometimes twice in a day
-increased appetite
-Extreme fatigue like I need to take a 2 hour nap
-adrenaline flashes
....So, after 7 days of this I called my OB today since she was on call and asked if I should go to the emergency. She decided that she wants to see me at her practice first thing tomorrow morning. In the meantime, she asked me to take a hpt. It was negative. But guess what, I'm not convinced. The 3rd pregnancy where I had the miscarriage...you remember right? Well, I took a pregnancy test the week before I was supposed to get the Mirena in b/c it had to be put in before my next period, well, that's when I found out I was pregnant...at the doctor's office! My hpt test said negative. So anyways, I am nervous and anxious to get to the bottom of this. If I am not pregnant, I will probably have it removed. It has caused so much unwanted change in my life-loss of sex drive, irregular bleeding, moodiness to the point where my husband thinks I'm psycho at times....you name it. If I am pregnant, then I will certainly have more worries than I ever have had before.

Has anyone had terrible joint pain from the Mirena? I didn't know where it was coming from, every time i would sit down for awhile then get up my joint ached so bad, i had never noticed this before, i told my doctor about it and he said i was just starting to feel the effects of getting older, i couldn't believe that, i am 38 years old and already being this stiff, i told him that i would not be able to move around by the time i was 50 if i felt like this already...and i was going to the gym at least 3 to 4 times a week so i was getting a lot of exercise, well i had my Mirena taking out about 3 weeks ago, mainly because my blood pressure kept going up and i had never had problems with this, so i thought maybe it was from the Mirena since i wasn't on anything else and i ate right and exercised, well i happen to notice the other day that i no longer have the joint pain i was having, i couldn't believe it, it had to of been from the Mirena, i feel so much better now, my sex life is back to normal and my blood pressure is staying down without medications, please don't listen to the doctors when they say its not the Mirena, we know our bodies more than anyone.

I'm on my 3rd month of Jolessa. I've got about another 2 weeks until my first period, but I've been breakthrough bleeding for 3 weeks already.
I've had several abnormal mood swings and it's also been affecting my sex life.

*Most recently I've started to have a difficult time breathing. Feeling breathless and not feeling like I'm getting enough air and gasping. Also, slight wheezing now.. Has anyone else experienced this?

It just doesn't seem worth it..

Wow. I am not even close to being done reading everyone's comments on Loestrin, and I am already EXTREMELY P.O'ed and at the same time relieved, at the fact that I found this page. I am 18 years old, and I started on Tri-Cyclin Lo when I was 15. I loved it, and never had any problems with it what-so-ever. It even helped with my acne problems. But a few months ago, my insurance decided to stop covering birth control, so my OBGYN decided to put me on Loestrin 24 Fe, because with the card you only have to pay 24 tops a month. But anyway, I now realize that all of the hell that has been happening in the past 3-4 months is due to Loestrin Fe. And after reading all of your comments I am POSITIVE! My Boyfriend and me have been fighting all of the time, and I have just been getting upset for no reason. I thought that it was because things between my boyfriend and me just aren't the same, and that maybe we are just growing apart.. but after reading all of your comments, and taking some time to think about it... IT HAS TO BE THE B.C! Before I started this pill we got along all the time... And also, my sex drive has plummeted so fast and drastically, to the point where my sex drive is NON EXISTENT. It has been hurting our relationship on top of my mood swings, because our sex life is also NONEXISTENT.. and we live together! I used to want to have sex all of the time.. and I haven't honestly wanted to have sex (not even once!) for the past few months...since I started Loestrin!!! Additionally, my face has been breaking out before periods excruciatingly bad. It has seriously hurt my self esteem. I have always had some issues with acne, but it has gotten ridiculous. I even bought an expensive acne kit that is supposed to be number one in the country, and it still keeps getting worse! .. And lastly I have been putting on a lot of weight, even though I have been eating the same.. also hurting my self esteem. Today, my bf and I finally came to the conclusion that "hmmm.. it most definitely might be the birth control." ..so I decided to come online and check out the side effects. AND BOOM! I see tons and tons and tons of comments from Women of all ages with the same, horrifying side effects. I am going to stop this birth control immediately. If my insurance won't cover anything else, and I can't afford any others, I will just deal with my cramps and longer periods. I never thought I would say this in a million years, but I would RATHER deal with the horrible cramps and long periods, than have to deal with the bull s*** that Loestrin has put me through. If anyone has anymore insight, message me or reply! Thanks.

My story is long and somewhat depressing. I have had horrible periods my entire life. I have tried birth control pills which caused migraines. I have tried birth control shots which caused 6 months of non-stop bleeding and endometriosis. Finally, I am told that I should try Mirena. I was hoping this would be the answer but it has been just another problem. I have had cysts every single month since insertion. The cyst always develops on the side that is ovulating and then ruptures a couple of days before the period begins (yes I still have periods). Sometimes cysts develop between ovulation and rupture quickly as well. Then the first couple of days of the period are hell because of horrible cramping pain. Yes, the bleeding during the period is lighter, but the periods are lasting anywhere from 9 to 12 days. I have been on prescription pain medication for this now for 6 months. I have no sex life because the pain is there every day. My hair is falling out and I am on the verge of tears all the time. I can not continue like this and have an appointment set up for later this month to beg the doctor to perform an ablation or simply give me the hysterectomy that I have been asking for over the last 15 years. My children are grown and I have no plans to have any more. Why do I need to endure this hell?

Oh did i forget to mention my mobility has even helped with my sex life, im actually feeling much better and my sex drive has come back, which my husband is estatic over, im not having night-mares but i dream longer and sleep longer than before..i use to wake up several times a night..before the lyrica, i take it with xxnax and night i sleep great! I have experience a little tighting in the chest it could be the meds or heartburn i will mention it to my doctor within the next week when i see him but it really has helped otherwise a lot!!

Wow, what a relief!
I am 24 years old and am almost finished my 4th month with the NUVARING. I WILL NOT be putting another one back in! I have had such horrible depression that I find myself crying ALL of the time. I am a full time mom of two beautiful children (6 and 2) and I find that they are bearing the brunt of my depression. I also have a very LOW sex drive which is making my husband feel slightly inadequate since we usually have a very good sex life.
Also, I used to have a very regular menstrual cycle and having a plastic ring determine my cycle is wreaking havoc on my body. I know one week in advance that my cycle is going to start because I am in such pain for the week before, and the week of that I can barely get out of bed. I am completely exhausted and have also gained 15 lbs in the 4 months alone. Which makes the depression and sex drive worse. It keeps a very vicious cycle going and I can't take it anymore. I would not recommend this to anyone... it is painful during sex, when I can actually force myself to engage in it. It is a little ring of HORROR!

Well, I've finally figured out how it is that Mirena works as birth control: if you're not having sex, you can't get pregnant. The first few weeks after having it inserted (about 2.5 months ago), I was fine - spotting pretty regularly, and having significant cramping, but nothing I couldn't handle. Then slowly I began having other side effects: dry, brittle hair that falls out in handfuls, dry skin, irritability, depression, fatigue, lack of motivation to do anything physical, extreme bloating through my mid-section (I am too terrified to get on the scale to see how much I've gained, but it's been about 4-6 dress sizes), swollen hands, migraines, and no sex drive. I mean, ZERO. My husband and I had a very active sex life which has now gone down to a couple times a month if I'm not too tired at night. I was a runner up until this summer (used to do 4-6 miles three or four times a week) and now I can't go more than a mile without becoming completely exhausted. I absolutely intend on getting it out, but ironically I'm so brain-dead tired all the time I can't seem to remember to make the phone call.

I did my research prior to getting Mirena, and read page after page of women who had extreme side effects from the hormone, but somehow assumed I would be one of the blessed few to escape them. That was big, fat, giant mistake. Bad pun intended.

I had the mirena put in 4 days ago. Unlike most people, I have not had a baby before. My doctor told me that I was still able to get it. I had been on birth control for 12 years and felt like my body needed a break from the extra hormones in birth control pills. I was off birth control pills for 6 weeks and have never felt better up until I had Mirena inserted.. Getting the IUD put in was one of the most painful experiences I have ever had. Since I had not had a baby before, she actually had to dilate me to get it in. My cervix had not been stretched by a baby, so it was hard to get in! To top it off, I have been sick ever since.

For the first 2 days, I had horrible cramping, nausea and back pain. To top it off, when my husband and I had sex for the first time my husband could feel the threads from the mirena and he said it hurt like hell. The pain from the threads he described as fishing line hitting his penis. We tried different positions and it didn't work. Has anyone else had this same problem? I have also been sick to my stomach ever since I got it. I am also having trouble sleeping. I am truly considering calling my doctor to already have it removed already. I cannot live my life like this and it is greatly affecting our sex life!

I had the Mirena inserted on April 2009, I have recently decided to have it removed because of the side effects since the Mirena - Weight gain, acne, mood swings, and swelling of the ankles and soreness of the foot. Without the insertion I had less bleeding, I spot for almost 3 weeks in which plays a role on my sex life. I don't know if this is related but diagnosed for low potassium level. I'm glad I found this website because I had no idea there were so many related cases. I'm calling my doctor today to have it removed.

I am so relieved to has found this page. I had no idea how many people on the NuvaRing were having the problems I've been having. I started using the NuvaRing a few years ago soon after starting to have sex. I wasn't very good at remembering my pill everyday, so I thought it would be a good option. I was so happy in the beginning because I could depend on it.

However, the first major thing that happened a few months later was IBS symptoms, which has put a big damper on my life since. I never know what food item will cause me to cramp and bloat next. It changes every day. I have always doubted this symptom attributed to Nuva until now. I thought my metabolism was changing because I was entering the workforce and exposing myself to new levels of stress.

Next, I never expected that it would diminish my sex drive. I have to convince myself that I'm in the mood, feeling responsible for maintaining a healthy sex life with my husband. That sounds so horrible, and it is. I'm almost never in the mood, not even to masturbate, and I have to keep a calendar to keep track of the last time I pleased my husband. I have not had a real orgasm since before starting the nuva.

It doesn't help to not only be not in the mood, but also when I do have sex, it's uncomfortable, burning, and very painful urinating afterwards. On many occasions, the ring gets pulled out a little during sex, causing a moment of uncomfortable prodding plastic for both of us, and I need to stop long enough to take it out and put it somewhere so I remember to put it back in again. Sex is more comfortable without it after that, but the irritation is still there. It takes a few days to heal before having sex again.

The last straw is more recent. I began to get discharge - a lot - starting the second week in the cycle. It wasn't a yeast infection, as I had a physical and pap at this time and the doctor would have picked it up. There was some itching, but mostly, I've had to wear panty liners 3 out of 4 weeks, including my menstrual cycle. This makes me feel less appealing, and much less interested in having spontaneous sex because I have to clean up first.

It just sucks that this has effected me for almost my whole relationship with my husband. Our dates, our honeymoon, our first anniversary vacation last month. All this time, and I find that the only prescription drug I'm on is what has caused me so much stress, sexual tension, and digestive ailment. One can only imagine what all these other happy commercialized medicines have in store for us, and in multiple amounts!

I'm 26. I was on the Nuvaring for about 2.5 years. I didn't really realize much for side effects. I had short, light periods, no cramping. Did gain a few pounds...maybe 10 or so, but never really thought it was because of the ring. Nothing really to complain about except for the complete loss of sex drive. It's been an ongoing issue with my fiance and I for about 1.5 years now. I had no idea why I wasn't interested in sex, and he felt it must have been him.

After a year and a half with no sex drive, and an upcoming wedding we were really concerned with our sex life. We did some research, and after reading all the possible side effects decided to discontinue using the ring.

I took it out at the regular time, had my one week break, and never put it back in. I have been off it now for 14 days. I had a regularly timed period, although it was extremely heavy and lots of cramping. My period finished on Aug. 13th.

It's Aug. 21st today, and yesterday I got my period again. It's extremely heavy, lots of clots, and cramping (which is not normal for me).

I am dizzy, nauseated, very tired, have back pain, feel overly emotional, and have absolutely no appetite at all! I'm having hot & cold flashes, and feeling all around like crap! I was worried that I possibly got pregnant during my period-free week, and was having a miscarriage.

I've done some reading, and I think it's safe to say that its the effects of stopping the Nuvaring. I'm hoping this doesn't last too long!!

On the bright side, after not having the Nuvaring in place for a week, my sex drive is completely back to normal!

I will never use the Nuvaring again, and I wouldn't recommend it!

I just read many postings here regarding lisinopril/hctz and the sexual problems it had caused you. I'm a 26 year old male, just married, and am having major problems with my sex drive and erections as well. I've been to several andrologists and they all concluded that 'everything is fine' and that i shouldn't be having the problems i'm having (based on many blood tests of course). I actually used to have a very high sex drive and no problems at all with erections, but i started losing my sex drive slowly but surely a year ago when i started taking lisinopril/hctz. Few months later, my erection started getting weaker and weaker as well. Now, i almost have no sex life. I quit lisinopril/hctz just 3 weeks ago, and i THINK i'm experiencing better morning erections, but still my sex drive is abnormally low. Sometimes my wife gets offended. I may get an erection during foreplay, but the erection is usually short lived, since i have no sex drive in the first place. Could anyone please share with me their experience with quitting this poison, and please let me know if you recovered your sex drive/life. Many thanks,

....and every test came back negative..my sex life was really becoming a problem and I didn't know what was wrong. I then decided to stop my pill as I had missed 3-4 in a row. Believe it or not, I believe for that time it began to improve. I am now back on the pill, it is not as bad as it once was. I wonder if it's my bodies way of getting used to it, or is it a bad reaction to the pill? I am 19, and I have talked to my mother about this. She says to wait and see if I can get used to the pill..
does anybody have any information?
Anything will help!

I just read many postings here regarding lisinopril/hctz and the sexual problems it had caused you. I'm a 26 year old male, just married, and am having major problems with my sex drive and erections as well. I've been to several andrologists and they all concluded that 'everything is fine' and that i shouldn't be having the problems i'm having (based on many blood tests of course). I actually used to have a very high sex drive and no problems at all with erections, but i started losing my sex drive slowly but surely a year ago when i started taking lisinopril/hctz. Few months later, my erection started getting weaker and weaker as well. Now, i almost have no sex life.

I quit lisinopril/hctz just 3 weeks ago, and i THIINK i'm experiencing better morning erections, but still my sex drive is abnormally low. Sometimes my wife gets offended. I may get an erection during foreplay, but the erection is usually short lived, since i have no sex drive in the first place.

Could anyone please share with me their experience with quitting this poison, and please let me know if you recovered your sex drive/life.

Many thanks,

August 12, 2009. I have been on Zocor/Simvastatin (40mgs) off and on over 5 years. I do not have any muscle mass left. I am an avid walker and exercise as much as possible in addition to still working in a high pressure position at the age of 72 (thankful for the job). My entire body hurts constantly, hands, fingers, legs, knees, neck, back, head and other parts to numerous to mention. My sex life is the pits. My doctor tells me I have high cholesterol that must be controlled by medication. I had a quad bypass in 1999, a cardiac defibrillator installed in 2003 (Actually 3 of them, first one was defective and went off, got a severe infection on reinstall #2, and 3rd one still is in and working hopefully). I never had a heart attack, no high blood pressure, just clogged up. I take enough medication to kill an elephant. At 72 I am going to trash the Simvastatin because I know it is the basis for my muscle loss and severe pain constantly. Doctor also had me on Lipitor for a long time (5 years). Statins really suck!

I am 62, have been on one or another anti depressant for 20 years,was on prozac for about last 3 years It seemed not to be doing the job,therapist started me on wellbutrin, the generic Bupropion,sex life was better,BUT I would rather have hair on my head than having orgasm. been taking 200 mg about 2 weeks,hands full of hair after washing my hair.I have noticed SOME memory problems,thought it was my age,ALWAYS have had a good memory, going off slowly,100 mg a day for 7 days then nothing,I also take anxiety meds,going to see if that may be all I need .If not back to the prozac

was on seroquel for a few days, after trying several other antidepressants which all had led to, weight gain, no sex drive (zoloft) heart "vibrations" and other side effects more harmful than helpful. but, the seroquel put me in a comotose, translike state. could not move off the couch, could not eat nor talk, a total zombie. stopped immediately, it took about a week for it to get out of my system. I am on zoloft again 50 mg. still no sex drive whatsoever, slight weight gain. but having no sex drive is the ultimate worst, yet I don't miss it at all when it was once the highlight of my marriage. sad to say marriage iss on the rocks, due to this minor problem. would love to go off it,, but i am too stressed. have tried so many drugs i can't keep track. do not want to gain weight or have no sex life, any suggestions on an antidepressant with no side effects? I am also going through my changes, ai am 50, which does not help.

I am so glad I found this site. i had the mirena inserted in march of this year. i am having horrible side effects with the mirena. because of this iud my relationship with my amazing boyfriend is completely falling apart. I am angered by him for no reason at all. I make assumptions towards him all the time. I started to realize that i was going crazy when he surprised me with an amazing new car, and all i could do was complain, and treat him like crap. i feel lousy for the way i have been treating him. I have felt that he is the one to blame. I now realize it is the mirena that is making me paranoid, and mean. I am going through a horrible depression, when actually I am a very happy upbeat person. I am tired all the time. I am moody, and I explode a rage of anger on people all the time, from my mother to my coworkers, and my boyfriend. Right now i feel so guilty for not realizing that i have been the problem all along. I also have bad memory loss. which is very unusual for me. I am known for my great memory. My school work suffered because i was sleeping through homework assignments, and class. i am bloated, and swollen every day. I am also gaining alot of weight. at first i was using diet and exercise, but with no results, and weight gain during the diets, I have given up and have been giving into my cravings. for the past month i have thought i was pregnant due to tummy flutters, lack of bleeding, crying a lot, and cravings. after taking a pregnancy test that came out negative i decided to do some research, and found this site. I also have headache, swollen throat, and vomiting. I am a very healthy person so this is also unusual. i am getting acne which has never been a problem, and am also getting back pain. I am calling my doctor in the morning to get this thing removed asap. i can not take these side effects any longer. i just hope that I have not lost my soul mate due to this stupid iud. does anyone know how long it takes for these side effects to stop after removal of mirena? I really just want to be my normal happy self again.

I have had the Mirena since Feb. of 2007. I still have heavy periods that last approx. 10-12 days and my cycle is every 26 days. I do have the bloating and extreme fatigue as well as the "lazy" feelings. I have no cramping, no back pain, or headache. It was a piece of cake to have inserted...it was done during my 6 week post partum pap smear and it was painless. While it sucks to have my period for ½ the month (which does nothing for the sex life) and it sucks to be bloated and feel tired, and it sucks when we DO have sex that we can both feel it for the first 30 seconds or so, AND it sucks that I can't wear a tampon with it...I'd much rather have this than have to take a pill (I'm not a good pill taker) and it does prevent pregnancy, and it doesn't have NEAR the side effects of estrogen based BCP's. That being said...I am almost 42 years old with a 3 yr old and an 18 month old and that in itself makes me extremely tired. Also, to bond...I didn't think they would put the Mirena in someone who had never had children??? At any rate...I have really had no problems with it, but I am considering having my husband get a vasectomy so I can get this out of me and maybe the fatigue will leave, and hopefully the periods will get shorter and less heavy. I am also considering an endometrial ablation as well...but knowing my luck, I'll probably still have periods considering I'm in the 10% of Mirena users who still have a period after a year of use. Girls, you just have to accept the fact that we are women with crummy hormones that will give us headaches, and hot flashes, and back aches, and acne, and cramps, and bloatedness, and tender breasts, and a myriad of other symptoms for our entires lives. It's just the way God made us.

Hi I am 21 years old and have been on the Nuvaring for about a year now. I have experienced many of the symptoms you have all spoken about. Hair loss, decreased sex drive( which scares me because i am so young and i am in a serious relationship in which my boyfriend has a high sex drive ( he 22) and he noticed my sex drive dwindling and wanted to know what changed. It has been a huge problem in our relationship.) I have not experienced weight gain that i have noticed. But i experience extreme pain/burning during and after sex. One of the side effects of the nuvaring is vaginitis which has pain n burning as its side effects. I have been to several doctors for the pain as it is disrupting my sex life and making sex unbearable at times. However they all dismissed the nuvaring as the cause and suggested that it may just be a mindset and i need to get into sex more. Which i think is bull im 21 and very much in love with my boyfriend and have a healthy sexual relationship so having a negative mental state word that seems ludacris to me. I have had std sti blood tests and been tested for yeast and blatter infections. Nothing seems to be wrong with me but i know i have never experienced this before and the nuvaring has been a constant through the pain. If anyone has experienced anything like this please let me know.

I had my Mirena put in December of 2007 and everything was good a first for the first year I really didn't have any problems just the irregular bleeding and spotting but it wasn't until earlier of this year in 09 I started to have more bleeding which was interfering with my sex life it was like it was non stop bleeding and it was SOOOOOO EMBARRASSING because sometimes when i thought my period was off when we would finish having sex there would be a blood stain on the sheet and he wouldn't want to touch me because he thought he was hurting me and not only that but I started having back and shoulder pains like crazy, headaches and mood swings and IM ONLY 19 I have a 19month old and I love her so much she is such a good baby everyone always tells me how good and smart she is but I find that even with her im starting to irritated and frustrated and I'm taking out on her and I am feeling depressed and fatigued I just want to sleep all day and my baby needs me and I just feel like crap and im trying to fight it but its so hard and so today i decided to come online and look at some of the side affects again because i did a little research but not enough obviously and this Mirena is having a lot more effects on me than I thought it would and not only that I have experienced weight gain so I think that its a bunch of crap to say you wont experience a lot of weight gain im already 5'7 159 and I was only 145 after i had my baby so that has me wondering too and I don't eat fast food and my over all diet is good and I would exercise more but im even finding it hard to do that now which i know is not me because all throughout high school i cheered and ran track and all kinds of sports and those little flutters that girl was talking about i feel those too and i don't know what to do now because my period was on for the last three months it was irregular sometimes it would be on for a whole week and half but I was with my boyfriend at the end of March and we just broke up so that hasn't helped my situation I have been with him for a year and now its June and i didn't have one this month so im praying that im not pregnant Im so confused this was def not for me maybe for some women it may be the best thing in the world but abstinence is the best alternative for me right now because Im not married and I sure as hell don't want any more babies right now Im just trying to make it now so I don't know I called my doctor and I am going to have it removed praying that im not already pregnant but I will keep posts and let everyone know how it works out