Zero sex symptoms and conditions

Oh yeah....I have zero sex drive. Fortunately, I am not married, or he'd probably want to divorce me.

Thank you all for sharing your feedback here. Reading this has come as a true relief. I've had the ring almost 2 weeks now, my gyn gave me one after i mentioned i was interested in other options besides the pill. I started the pill almost 3 years ago because my period cramps were so bad. I always use a condom and use the pill as backup in case theres an accident. I hated having to remember it, so she popped in a ring before i could really say OK I GUESS. I was not sold on it because i knew there were different side effects, but she insisted that it was "just like the pill".

Lies.

Today almost broke down crying for no reason in front of all my coworkers. I have been really depressed, to the point where its affecting my work and friendships and i can barely do anything. The first week of the ring i was so tired, i took 3 hour naps in the middle of the day...

I am 24, exercise regularly and take very good care of myself, and from the first day of having the ring i was weary. I have been having so much discharge that i have to wear a liner, the discharge has an odor that's totally embarrassing (i told my gyn and she said there was no way it was the ring, probably an infection, just see if it goes away). I've never ever had a yeast infection...though I bet I will now that I have read everyone elses statements.

I feel disgusting, im so bloated i look pregnant, all i want to do is eat, i have no motivation to exercise which is a real problem as i do races and marathons. I know I have gained weight....weight that I have worked very hard all summer to get rid of...that i have gained in not even 2 weeks...

i have absolutely ZERO sex drive. I never thought I would care about that last one, but I feel like i have become a passionless robot from Brave New World or something. It SUCKS. nothing turns me on. I thought it was my last boyfriend that was the problem, but I'm dating again, and I have no desire. its becoming really sad for me.

i always had a little acne break out on my chin, but i have had a bunch of breakouts nonstop.

thats it in a nutshell. i already told my gyn i want to go back to the pill, because of the discharge alone being enough of a nuisance. she said wait and try it a while. I'm talking to her in the next couple days and insisting a switch back to the pill before i am due for another ring. i cant wait to get the thing out. i don't really think its a good idea to have a plastic thingy shoved up in there anyways.

i wish we didn't have to get all hopped up on hormones that throw our bodies off so much.... :( i hate it.

After more than a year on the nuvaring (which worked wonderfully) I decided to go a more permanent route with the mirena iud. I had it put in three months ago, and I can't believe the side effects that have come with it. Sudden weight gain, horrible breakouts, zero sex drive, and SEVERE mood swings. I feel like I'm on the verge of a breakdown everyday. I would trade having a period for this any day. Needless to say, my iud will be coming out very soon. I don't know how some of you can deal with this for such a long time.

The side effects I have been having are listed:

migraines
weak leg muscles
depression
exhausted all of the time
heavy bleeding
**when the bleeding does ease up, I get a bright yellow discharge that causes painful yeast infections
the skin on my face is red, flaky dry
extremely dehydrated skin all over my body
nausea
zero sex drive
always feel bloated

This is just not worth it...

I had the IUD inserted in September to help with heavy periods. It worked awesome for that. I love it in that respect. However, I gained about 15 pounds in two months. I play soccer 2 times a week and was training for a marathon so it didn't make sense. I had sever back pain and joint pain that I blamed running for. I all of a sudden had ZERO focus; tons to do and all I could do is sit and stare at the pile of to-do's. Zero sex drive to the point that I wanted to hit my husband if he even asked. One night I yelled at him so meanly it didn't even sound like me and scared the heck out of him (and me). Super depressed and angry all the time. I try not to talk to people and I don't really know why. For some weird reaso I kinda chalked it all up to turning 40 until I saw this site. I had it removed today and was told that the hormones would be out of my body in around 48 hours-hopefully they take the weight with them!! My husband had a vasectomy so I just did it to help with periods. I wish I would have seen this site before. My doctor wasn't surprised at all at my symptoms and gladly removed it. She said that some women just react badly to the hormones and some are fine. I was NOT FINE!!

I have read about 20 posts and I am with all of you ladies. My relationship is falling apart because I have zero sex drive. My boyfriend actually accused me of having another relationship because if he's not getting sex whois. I have gained about 10lbs in since Sept of 08. I have the discharge and the odor that will go away for about a week and the rest of the month it is very prevalent. I'd ike to get it removed but I no longer have insurance and can't imagine what the cost of removal would be. If anyone has suggestions about a different birth control I would really appreciate the advice.

I had Mirena put in last June '08. It is now June '09 and I had it removed yesterday. I had my child May '08 and was 10lbs away from my pre-birth weight when I had the Mirena put in. Now I am 10lbs heavier than I was in my ninth month of pregnancy! Its like I am pregnant all over again. My belly is always distended, feet and hands swollen. It is the worst 10 days surrounding when my period occurs- I can't fit in my clothes. Libido is zero and I have been foggy and unable to concentrate for the past year. The fatigue is considerable. I thought it was just being a new mom- since my Dr. told me this BC has no effects, but based on my previous experiences with the Pill- I think that anything with hormones is just a bad idea for me. After the mirena was removed yesterday, I have not stopping urinating! Belly has already gone down a little bit. I hope this does not screw me up too much!

I rarely read or post to blogs like this, but I feel compelled to here because I am so relieved to hear that maybe my symptoms are related to the mirena. I had it placed in Jan 08 when my son was 8 weeks. When I got the mirena in, I bled for 2 months straight, and then had crazy random periods, sometimes spotting, sometimes heavy, at completely irregular intervals. Then, within the last 3 months (after having it for over a year) the bleeding has stopped completely. Anyways, I have been exhausted, incredibly anxious (like medically, seriously anxious, not just worried) and had no sex drive. At first I attributed it to having a young baby and not sleeping... then to the stress of going back to work... but now literally nothing is wrong in my life, I like my job, have a beautiful boy, my husband is my best friend, we have a nice house, etc and I am STILL miserable and a wreck. I guess that's what depression is. I also have zero, and I mean zero, sex drive, the idea of having to do it makes me so tired and upset. I've never been a sex maniac, but used to love a good romp with my hubby. Now I literally feel asexual. I hope its all been the mirena and getting it out will help. Good luck to all of you.

I have been on the generic brand, Apri for 4 months. HELL!!!!! I am depressed, mood swings like crazy, ZERO sex drive (can't even get wet), losing hair, headaches constantly, acne......it has been awful. I had two active pills left and i had already decided to stop after this month, I couldn't force myself to take another pill. I would NOT recommend this pill, especially if you are researching it because you feel strange on it. I have lost all energy, I can barely get out of bed, no focus.....I am so glad to be off it. I hope it hasn't done long term damage.

After all the bad ratings on the nuvaring, I am suprised it is still recommended for use. My doctor told me to try the nuvaring because I have a history of having break through bleeding every day and he didn't want to put me on the medicine (northindrone) that will stop it and straighten me out quickly. Not sure why but I might have to switch doctors. The first month I had break through bleeding every day during the 2nd and 3rd week. When I took it out for the 4th week, the break through bleeding stopped which I find weird. My cycle didn't start until 3 days later. I'm currently on the 2nd month and I experienced large amounts of discharge the first week and just moving into my 3rd week I am starting to experience break through bleeding, cramps, and bloating. I have never bloated before in my life. During these past two months I have also experienced episodes of extreme hunger and then episodes where even the thought of food makes me sick. I have ZERO sex drive, am extremely dry (doesn't make sense with the increased discharge?), and there are times when it is too painful to even have intercourse. I have not experienced the real bad mood changes/ depression but I am tired all the time. The tiredness gets to the point where I can barely stay awake and I always get more than 7 hrs of sleep a night. I'm going to give nuvaring one more month and if it straightens out my breakthrough bleeding I will stick with it because bleeding every day is the most frusterating and depressing thing I can think of. It doesn't even compare to the side effects I experience while on the ring. I have tried 6 different forms of BC with no avail and bled for a year straight once before.

I am quitting Yaz tomorrow. All totaled, I've been on it for about 3 years (I quit a year and a half ago because I was getting terrible yeast infections and gross brown discharge every month, but then after I quit I didn't have a period for three months, and that drove me nuts, so I got back on). I've recently realized that I have EVERY symptom. I have zero sex drive (actually, less than zero--the thought of sex makes me sick to my stomach) and I used to be way more "excitable" than my boyfriends. Now my bf thinks I don't find him to be attractive, which couldn't be more false! When we do have sex, I do not get wet (ever) and do not have an orgasm about 90% of the time (I used to have multiple EVERY time). I get foot cramps every night (no joke), sometimes multiple times per night. I've gained 20 lbs since I started. I get migraines every month with my period, and sometimes as many as one per week. Though it cleared up my acne, I still get really big cystic acne around my period, so that small benefit isn't enough to outweigh all of the horrible side effects.

Like someone else said, it also has taken away my feelings. I don't feel much of anything anymore...no happiness, no sadness...nothing. I'm always exhausted, no matter how much I sleep, and even with regular exercise and an extremely healthy diet. I get sore nipples and cramps...something I never got pre-Yaz. I just can't take it anymore (literally). I'd rather be zitty than be a fat, sad lady with ZERO sex drive.

I had mirena inserted after 2 months after having my daughter, and i was hoping this would be the best birth control ever. BUT i never thought the side effects would be soo bad! At first the insertion did not hurt one bit, but hours later i had severe cramping to the point of not getting out of bed. The cramping lasted about 3 days, and the spotting for about 3 weeks. I did not wanted to get it removed because i figured it would take a while for my body to get used to it, (and b/c i paid 500.00 for it). Here i am almost a year later and i have pregnancy symptoms having periods for 11 out of 12 months. Constant nausea, horrible cramps on each side of my stomach, zero sex drive, and bloating. I am going to make an appointment b/c i am scared that i may have either an eptopic preg. or an ovarian cyst.

Hi, I've been looking for information about Femcon Fe. This is the 5th type of pill that I've taken. (I've been on the pill for 11 years and have always had breakthrough bleeding). My doctor just started me on Femcon thinking maybe I need a higher dose of hormones. It's only been 10 days but so far I feel like a completely different person. I take the pill before I go to bed and in the first few nights I woke up a couple hours later with horrible cramps (worse than on my period). The cramps have for the most part gone away but I am emotionally a completely different person. My fiance said the first couple days were terrible mood swings, but now I feel completely detached or disconnected from having any emotions. I just feel like I'm in a fog. And for the past 4-5 days I've had trouble sleeping, had terrible headaches, and zero sex drive. I would much rather deal with breakthrough bleeding than deal with this constant disconnected feeling. Does anyone know if it's bad to just stop taking the pills? I ordered a refill of my old Yasmin but it won't get here for a few days.

My experience with Yaz was short lived! My doc put me on Femcon Fe first, and after a month of non stop bleeding and zero sex drive I told her I wanted something else, and she put me on Yaz. My sex drive did increase a bit, but it was still next to nothing compared to before I started taking the pill. After 5 months of Yaz I flushed them down the toilet and took myself off of it. I was extremely moody, felt severely depressed, had a low sex drive, weak orgasms, and no lubrication-thank God they make that stuff! Not to mention I gained about 20 pounds. I have been off it for about 6 months, but still have a low sex drive, weak orgasms, and don't lubricate. I asked my doc about this today and she said it could not be related to the pill because it is out of my system. I find it hard to believe that my body has done a 180, and the pill had nothing to do with it when none of this was happening to me before I was on it! I'm 26, and it's scary that I may have to deal with this for the rest of my life.

I had the Mirena inserted July 2007. I thought the Mirena was the best invention ever! I have migraines so I could no longer continue taking the pill. My doctor and I discussed my options and we both thought the Mirena would be a good solution. I didn't want to have anymore kids but I was mentally ready to have my tubes tied. With the Mirena I would have lighter periods and no migraines and it lasted for 5 years. No remembering taking a pill every night. Sounded like a win-win situation to me. During the latter half of 2007 to early 2008, I gained 22 lbs. It appeared overnight (or that's how I felt). I blamed it on it being the holidays and eating too much. I increased my workouts, hired a personal trainer (not cheap) and dieted my butt off. I didn't lose a pound. Early this year my co-worker told me about this sight. She had the Mirena also. When I started reading the side affections that women were experiencing, everything started clicking into place. The weight gain. The hair loss. My hair grows like a weed. And I've been trying to grow my hair out for at least 8 months. It hasn't grown an inch even though I get my ends trimmed. The hair at the back of my head has broken off. It's shorter than the rest of my hair. I have ZERO sex drive. I'm moody (more than usual). I've made an appointment to have it removed Wednesday. I can't wait! I still don't know what I'm going to do about birth control.

I have had mine now for almost 5 years. I have had adult acne the whole time and never ever had it as a teen! I feel bloated as well all the time and I have zero sex drive and when I do have sex it is painful. I also can relate to other women who have posted on here and mentioned that they did not feel fresh down there. That is something that constantly bothers me. I used to think maybe I had BV or something going on and would go in and it would turn out to be nothing. I cannot wait to get this thing out. After reading all these post I have made up my mind. This is coming out ASAP.

I thought stress was getting me. I quit exercising; started craving food constantly; experience constant unexplained back, neck, and shoulder pain; have zero (and I mean ZERO) sex drive; am so dry that if I do have sex it is terrible; feel like I have a cold all the time; and am so exhausted that I don't want to go anywhere or do anything. I think about going to bed over half the day. I was on WebMD putting in all of my symptoms and thinking I might have fibromyalgia until I ran across this website. I've been on Yaz since August and have gained almost 10 lbs, mostly because I am completely lazy, unmotivated, and tired all the time. I thought it was the change in weather when I lost all motivation to exercise (or even get up) in September, but now I think it is the Yaz. I quit taking the pill on Sunday. No change yet (of course), but I am hopeful. My husband is probably more hopeful than me since I've been making his life miserable too...

I started Loestrin 24 on 12/23/08 that was may last period. I just started my 3 pack (I have 6 more) and after reading all these entries and seeing what you all are experiencing and comparing it to me. I am wondering what I should do. My story is comparable to some of yours. I am a SAHM to 2 children (2 yr and 9m) I was previously on BC before that, I started again after 3 yrs. I explained to my Doc that with previous pills, I hated mood swings, lack of sex drive, and being temper mental. He said that Loestrin 24 had the least about of chances for this to happen. So I agreed. I started it and since then I have had only 6 days of spotting (light only 1 "sighting" of blood per day). 3 of the days were a week after I started the pill. The other 3 were mid Jan. I called my doctor and the nurse did not seem to be bothered by it. "Its normal not to have a period on the pill". Based on what I have read "shorter and lighter period" are normal not missing one +. Now reading all these other stories, moody swings, not feeling like yourself, snapping at people for no reason, cry fits, temper mental, and lack of sex drive. It made me start thinking about my last 3 months. I will have to agree that it all seems to fit my situation and what has been going on with me. So here I am thinking, WHAT DO I DO? Do I continue and see what happens or do I stop? I know thats for me to decide, but reading "your" stories is very unnerving. Has anyone missed/skipped periods while being on Loestrin 24?

I had my mirena inserted about 13 months ago before Christmas after the birth of my 2nd child , I was naturally shedding the baby weight until Mirena came into my life and then I gained 10lbs effortlessly within 2 months! even though my diet is always the same (I am coeliac). I had to start working out running 4 times a week and gradually have lost 8lbs but its been a huge battle.
Last May I woke up one morning bright red covered in a sunburn type rash all over my body it was scary, my joints ached so bad and my hands and feet were really swollen as if my body was reacting to something.. my gp did some blood tests and nothing it kept happening for 2 weeks and then the rash went,..I put it down to a virus at the time but felt as weak as a kitten and suffered night sweats, anxiety and flu like symptoms for months.

Ive had to really fight to keep up my running because most of the time I feel tired and depressed and run down and I have awful PMT the past few months have been dreadful I feel rubbish most of the time..everyone is getting on my nerves, I have little sex drive too and I am sure its down to the Mirena..its side affects remind me of the mini-pill which I took once for a few months it sent me so extremely loopy (paranoid and anxious) that my husband flushed them down the toilet!! well I think its the same/similar type of synthetic hormone that my body DOES NOT agree with.

I saw my Gp the other day and asked her about the side affects and she still said that I shouldn't have any after a year and it was very rare but after reading about it on here I cant believe it... its obvious and Im getting it removed. Ive had over a year of feeling terrible and various ailments so much so that I think my immune system (which is already sensitive) has suffered.

I started birth control a couple months before I got married. I was on alesse and it made me rapidly gain weight. I went to the gyn and she ranted and raved about NuvaRing. I was excited to get off alesse and that I didn't have to remember to take a pill everyday.
The first month was great. I didn't feel the ring and some weight was starting to come off from the previous bc. I have been on it a total of three months and will no longer continue. I cry at the drop of a dime; I am bloated in my midsection as well as even more weight gain; I have zero sex-drive; When my husband and I do have sex, I am crying because it hurts so bad; I have terrible mood-swings; acne; bad cramps (I never have had cramps before); and not to mention, horrible headaches and even my first migrane!
I thought I was becoming a crazy person and have felt like my husband deserves better than me. Come to find out, that person he married is in there still, but hiding under drugs.
What other birth control has anyone gone on that works since the NuvaRing??

Shame on me... I had read similar reviews when I was prescribed NuvaRing a year ago, and thought "Side effects vary among women", but the general consensus seems to be that WE are the majority, not the "occasional" exception.

I have been experiencing many of the same disastrous effects of the Ring for the past 12 months I have been on it. Depression, ZERO SEX DRIVE, headaches, intense mood swings that lead to physical aggression, frequent (nearly daily) uncontrollable crying, anxiety, more vaginal discharge, pain after sex (on the rare occasion that it DOES happen) and overall a poor outlook on life. It's ruining my relationship with a wonderful man, who (bless his heart) is nearly at the end of his rope dealing with me and all the tribulations listed above.

To those of you who thought you were crazy, BEFORE you blame yourself, consider that the Ring may be a contributing factor.

I have been using the Nuvaring for almost three years and I am thinking of taking it out in a few days and leaving it out for good. I never thought I had any real side effects until I started reading other people's reviews. I thought everything I was feeling was just me being me, but now I know better. Here is the long list of my side effects: weight gain, depression, severe anxiety, painful intercourse, discharge, itching, migraines, pimples, and zero sex drive. I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years. In fact, I got on birth control because we were beginning a serious relationship and I did not want to use condoms. Our sex life is nonexistent at this point. When we had sex is was good, but it was painful too. I am 27 years old and I have started having the attitude of "I could go the rest of my life without sex". I don't want my boyfriend to even touch me at this point and this is definitely putting strain on our relationship. Last night we were discussing the situation and he said to go off of birth control and we would use condoms. Like I said in the beginning I am taking it out. I am a bit anxious about going off birth control because I do not want any kids right now, but being on this birth control I am practicing another type of birth control abstinence. Doesn't make sense does it? The other side effects I mentioned are also affecting our relationship. This is a serious relationship, I am going to marry this man; we have picked out rings and that is why it is so important that I remedy this problem. The discharge side effect was putting a damper on our sex life in the beginning before I lost all interest. I never had a migraine in my life and rarely had even a headache, but I have had two migraines in the last few years and get headaches more often. I had a random pimple every once in a while, but now I have them everyday. I have gained weight and can’t seem to lose any. I wake up in the mornings with my mind racing due to the anxiety and I have not felt genuinely happy in a long time. The depression has made me even think of suicide several times and my life is fine. I am looking forward to being myself again. I hope this helps someone.

okay ladies, I'm not sure what you all are experiencing since I'm not a doctor. But I will tell you that a huge amount of your symptoms can either be age related or post baby related. I have four children ages 15, 6, 5, 3.
The beginning stages of the Mirena granted are not pretty and can last for months. I was having a terrible time with my periods and was out of commission for the first three days of every cycle each month. I have had my Mirena for almost 2 years now and am going on 41. I had to wait it out for about 6 months before seeing any huge improvements. I will tell you this, over eating and NOT eating a healthy diet of fruits and veggies will aggravate bloating and mood swings. You could have these with or without the IUD. I never lost my hair unless I was 3-6 months post partum.
A diet rich in potato chips, bread, meats and cheesy pizza will show on your hair skin and nails. The typical American diet will leave even your special guy moody. As we age the expectation is that we will always feel 18 and I have had to come to grips with how my body ages and how I take care of it. A new baby whether it is your 1st or 4th will cause unwanted fatigue. I still struggle with fatigue because not everyone sleeps thru the night including my hubby so my sleep gets disrupted a lot. There are several things you can do to help your Mirena work for you and not scare you. I NEVER lose my sex drive unless I fail to exercise even a little each week and have fought back with a super charged diet. I'm not perfect at it but boy does it ever help. Sugar has a HUGE impact on your hormones and fatigue level. Limit it. Got to bed as early as you can and avoid late night TV. Don't give your precious zzz's to some silly show that won't help you be a better person any way. Get moving and add a little (or a lot) of weight training to your days- your sex drive will soar and your body will thank you. Pray for wisdom. God will help. Sometimes he uses fatigue to slow me down and focus on what is really important. Granted not everyone can handle an IUD. But if you try a little self care and be patient you might find that it works for you. I had heavy bleeding and at my age the doc said I got it just in time because from 40-50 I could expect more of the same. I am grateful for it because I felt like I was dying every time I had a period. A little fatigue is worth the benefits. Keep in mind that even your little ones get tired. They need naps and they are kids. We need rest in the afternoons too. It's okay to stay off the phone and rest a little if you can. My energy drainers are TV, negative people, talking on the phone too much, eating too much especially when I'm not really hungry, the wrong foods when I do eat, and not getting sleep or exercise. Start small and see if over time it doesn't make a big difference before you throw in the towel. Blessings to all and especially the new mommies.

Well, I have been on Loestrin 24 Fe for about a year now and let me tell you, the person who said their side effects increased with time is exactly right! I have been miserable lately. I have been beyond moody, I have no appetite, my husband hates me because I have ZERO sex drive...I mean ZERO. We'll go a month at a time without having sex. My attitude is miserable. I feel like the most depressed person on the planet and I have never ever experienced depression symptoms until being on this pill. Recently, I missed 5 of my pills while I was on vacation, and magically, my sex drive reappeared and I wanted to eat everything in sight. Seems to me, the pill is causing me grief now. Within the last 2 months, I've had crazy pregnancy symptoms too. I'm SO beyond over this pill, I'm finishing the pack and then it's back to condoms for us. I was on Yaz for a while too before Loe, and let me just say I was the biggest bitch on the face of the earth. I'm just guessing these pills aren't right for me. The only thing that DID work was a minipill that I was on when I was breastfeeding my daughter. My ob-gyn took me off because she said that the hormone levels weren't high enough when I stopped breastfeeding to prevent pregnancy. Gosh, I miss that pill. Oh well. It's nice to know I'm not the only one with these problems.

I posted about a year and a half ago about how Yasmin was doing all the things described by many. Lost my hair....zero sex drive...and if we DID have sex...It was the most painful experience ever....heart palpitations.....severe anxiety attacks for the first time ever in my life...and even suicidal feelings. I got off of it as I quickly realized I was essentially poisoning myself with this awful drug. And got a non hormonal IUD. The IUD has been excellent. But I must say...I have never truly stopped getting the panic attacks. They still come and go. I've tried detox teas....even seeing a therapist to help with it. I'm not on any anti anxiety drugs...I've been meditating and doing yoga to help with it. But honestly.....I wonder sometimes if I'll ever get my pre-Yasmin body back. :(