extreme hair loss, no sex drive, mood swings/ anger outburst, hot...

extreme hair loss, no sex drive, mood swings/ anger outburst, hot flashes, headaches, tired, depression, etc.... I am 39 yrs old, have been married for five years and have two children with my husband and one from a previous marriage. I am finished having children and after my daughter was born, I decided to have the Mirena inserted (being and labor and delivery nurse, I had heard good things about the Mirena....especially the no periods!) I have had my Mirena since 2/08, didn't have a problem getting it put in, actually was fairly easy. Had bleeding on and off for 2 months after and eventually no periods. I was also breastfeeding at the time. Once I quit breastfeeding I had a period almost a month later and have some break through bleeding here and there (never know when so can't say for sure it is a true period). Since having it inserted I have had NUMEROUS side effects: hair loss more then I would equate to normal post pregnancy loss and still loosing hair, no sex drive (poor husband, can count the number of times in the last two years on one hand), tired all the time, insomnia to the point I have to take benadryl or ambien to get to sleep, anger/ severe mood swings, weight gain and just over the past few months, my sense of smell is abnormal (almost smells like I have a cigarette/ rubber tire smell constantly and is driving me insane) almost to the point I have convinced myself that I have a brain tumor or something. This may not be related to the Mirena, but nonetheless a "weird" symptom. My mood swings are awful, almost to the point where I feel bi-polar at times. I was never this way before and was pretty much even tempered. I hate the person I have become, my family takes the brunt of my anger, which is totally not fair to them....I feel like a bad wife and mother. Thankfully my husband is a GREAT man and loves me no matter what. I mention all these things to my OB when I went for my yearly exam, she tried to pass it off to me having four children at home and being a working mom, etc... and prescribed me paxil. I debated back and forth about taking the medication, because I just have a thing about taking antidepressants...this is not me. I am a member of another website called ****** and there is a Mirena side effect support group, so many women have similar complaints and I can't think that this is all just inside of my head. I swear I am going to go crazy or have a nervous break down. I think I will just take my chances and have this Mirena removed. I agree with a previous poster, I would take the symptoms from having a monthly period any day over this, cramps are nothing compared to how I have felt the last 6-8 months. Those of you that may think this is a bunch of crap, I am glad you are not experiencing the side effects, but I didn't at first, it took almost a good year for the major things to start coming to the surface. I would give anything to be my old self again.