Flomax and doctors

I am a 57 year old female and have been on Flomax for 3 years. I have tried twice to stop but my urinary hesitancy was worse. Has anyone had this experience? Does anyone know how to wean off this medication? Doctors don't seem to have the answer.

How long does it take to be free of the side effects from taking Flomax? After being on 2 Flomax pills daily for over a year, I was still up 3x in the night. I stopped taking Flomax a month ago after reading here the side effects and realizing I suffered from many of them. Trouble sleeping, sinus headaches, almost zero libido etc. Question...when will the libido return?
R. (Ontario)

My dad is 73 years old and has been in the hospital, rehab, nursing care, back to hospital, currently back in rehab since August 3, 2008. He was on Flomax which he was taken off of the first week in August after arriving to the hospital with low blood pressure and leg weakness to the point of being unable to walk. He had been taking it for years so doctors did not think Flomax the cause. However, once they ret'd him on Flomax he was unable to hold his head up when sitting in wheel chair (drooling) and very unresponsive. He also vomited and just stared at it, unable to respond to try to clean himself up. They took him off Flomax with some improvement. (He could hold his head up and respond.) His weakness declined to the point that he can no longer pee/poop without a diaper, can't swallow, can't speak (due to weakened vocal chords), and has no energy. He has a feeding tube. To date, they have not been able to pin point what dad's problem is. I noticed that on October 10, 2008, they returned him to Flomax. He again is sitting in wheelchair with head hanging down. No energy to do rehab. I have requested they take him off Flomax and LEAVE him off. I don't trust this drug. I think his long-term use of this drug could be what's killing my him.

I have been on Flomax for 10 months. Went to Mozambique in September and passed out while hunting. Thought it was because of lack of H2O but was well hydrated, ringing in ears has not stopped, itching and liver pain getting worse, 1-08. Went to the doctor and he said I had MS...give me a brake!!! I'm 55 and I've never had internal problems other than a little high blood pressure and a slow flow... Why do doctors ram this crap down our throats???? I'm taking myself off this crap...all I have read on this thread are things I have noticed since starting this witches brew!!!
TB