Mirena and 3 years

very tired all of the time, hair loss, weight gain, upper stomach cramping just under middle of breasts - keeps me awake. Would like to know if the stomach cramping is caused by mirena. Have now had the mirena for 3 years. Upper stomach cramping under ribs worse over last 6 months, like gall bladder pain? Loss of sex drive. Positive is that it is better than pill for feeling ok mentally for me.

For me having the Mirena removed just last Thursday was the right decision. I was not using it for birth control but as hormone therapy for heavy, crampy periods. I had it inserted in July 2008 and bled every single day for the entire time, I had it removed last week and now I am bleeding very heavily but hopefully that will stop once all those hormones are out of my body.
While on Mirena I lost all sex drive, I became severely anemic and with that fatigued terribly, and moody, crying at nothing and screaming at my kids or husband for stupid reasons, I felt bloated and gassy and didn't have those problems before.
I am 42 years old and I hate my heavy bleeding in fact I want a hysterectomy, but not sure now what I will do.

For those of you who had the Mirena removed, how long did it take to stop bleeding afterwards? This is draining every last ounce of energy for me and I am taking iron supplements.

What sucks is the cost of this, Even with insurance I ended up paying a lot out of pocket to get this thing and then all the Dr. visits due to bleeding and side affects in the 4 months it was in and now the removal of it. I am wondering if there is any way that we can get a Class action lawsuit against Bayer for this horrible thing they are trying to sell to women.
I know there are some out there who have not suffered all these horrible side effects at least not yet or that they are aware of, but I truly believe that there is nothing good about this IUD and those of us and there are a lot of us who have suffered with this should be reimbursed or compensated for the pain and loss of parts of our lives and expenses with this. Does anyone else have any thoughts on this?

I was so amazed to see so many people having the same side effects as I am. I thought I was just stressed out from working full time, being a full tine student in college and a single mother of a 3 year old. I have not had this much acne on my face since I was in high school and I am 28 years old. I have gained so much weight that most of my old clothes don't fit anymore and I don't have the money to buy new clothes. My mirena was inserted in May 2008. After reading these blogs, I think I will get it taken out, but I would hate to get back on the birth control pill and I had a bad experience with Nuvaring too. I read in a magazine that what Mirena does is make the uterus uninhabitable for the fertilized egg to grow, so this means we are pregnant every month and pass the fertilized egg out with our menstrual cycles.

I have had my Mirena for 4.5 years and found this site when looking up info on removal...WOW, I had no idea that women had so many different problems with this IUD. The reason I chose Mirena to begin with is that I had tried many other forms of birth control...not so much to prevent getting pregnant...but I had such bad menstrual cramps that they would cause my blood pressure to drop and I would pass out. My only option left was hysterectomy, and I was only 40 years old at the time. In any case, I never really thought I had problems with the IUD other than the initial pain at insertion. I attributed my weight gain over the past 3 years to a decrease in activity after beginning a Doctorate degree while still working full time. One thing I could never explain is the constant feeling of fatigue and occasional dizziness that seems to have increased over the past year....almost like a light hangover. I have also been getting more acne and breast tenderness over the past year, but I thought this might be due to the medication on the Mirena losing its potency. I am scheduled to see the Gyn next month, where I was going to ask her to remove the current Mirena and replace it with a new one...but I am not so sure about replacing this. I would appreciate advice specifically on whether anyone went from this option to a partial hysterectomy and their experience, as this is really my only other choice at this point.

Ladies, thank you for all of your posts. I now know that I am not crazy! I am 32 and was on the pill for the past 3 years since my last child was born. I went off the pill and had the mirena inserted in February 2008. I had a few friends that had it who raved about how much they loved it. I talked with my gyn and it sounded like a good fit for me. In the first month that it was inserted I had to call the on call gynecologist at night or on weekends because I was having such sharp pains in my pelvic area. It would stop me in my tracks, I would lose my breath, and couldn't move. I went in to the office twice in the first month because I was just not feeling right about the way things were going. My doc assured me it was all normal and that I had to give it a few more months. I did have random spotting/periods for the first 3 months, which was annoying, but bearable. In June I had an ovarian cyst rupture and the pain was so bad I could have sworn I was in labor. I went to the ER and they found that one had ruptured but there was another one that was almost 5 cm in diameter. Subsequent ultrasounds showed that I did have a steady cycle of ovarian cysts, but they were small. In the meantime I had trouble sleeping, was flying off the handle for silly things, and just felt completely out of control. I talked to my new family medicine doctor (a woman) and she told me that she felt that my body was going into a semi-menopausal state because of the lack of estrogen in my body. The solution was to put me on an estrogen patch for 3-6 months to see if it helped. I was on the fence about the patch, but knew I had to do something to help me get some sleep again and to calm down. The patch worked quickly and within a week I was feeling calmer, sleeping through the night again. In the meantime I have crazy acne that just seemed to appear from no where. I'm not sure if it's the estrogen patch, the iud, or a combination of them both. My face is broken out everywhere, all the time. My hair has also changed. It's been straight my whole life. Super straight, now waves or curls. Now all of the sudden I have frizzy, wavy hair that is thinning and just looks so damaged. By the summer, about 3 months after the IUD was inserted my periods were normal, short, but normal, every 4 weeks. Now I have not had a period in 5 weeks (pregnancy test negative) and my cycle before that was only 3 weeks. I have finally decided that I'm done with mirena!! I am going for an appointment on the 17th to have it taken out. I have also just stopped the estrogen patch this week, so I'm hoping to have my body "de-toxed" of all of these hormones soon!

My gyn wants me to get the mirena. I am 28 and have a blood clotting disorder for which I take blood thinners. I had an embolism while on Nuvaring in March. Anyway, because of the blood thinners I bleed 25 days out of a 28 day cycle and there is nothing they can do about it...so the gyn suggested MIRENA. I'm a bit scared because I have not had any babies yet and I DO want to get pregnant within the next 5 years and start a family. The gyn assured me that I would not have any fertility problems and that Mirena was a wonderful device. I am still skeptical. What if I become depressed? What if the cramping is too much? It seems like a lot to go through ...the insertion, the risks etc. and what if I hate it? I am leaning towards asking for the mini-pill instead (progestrin only). The idea of having something inserted into my uterus frightens me.

Ok...well WOW...I am getting out my Mirena tomorrow, but for the reason of wanting another baby. I was googling away looking for information about removal and post-removal pregnancy problems...and here I stumbled. When I first had Mirena put in at 6 weeks post-partum...I was so forgetful that my friend was desperately trying to figure out why I couldn't remember anything!!! I had the usual cramps and no period/super light period, but have not had any huge complaints. I mean, I could always feel it, but that's because I have always been hyper aware of my body. Well, in the last year I have been getting acne on my face...which I usually have clear skin...and I couldn't figure it out!! I thought my body was changing. I have also been complaining to my husband that I just feel run down...tired, irritable blah blah blah...I kept relating it to have having a baby. I know that pregnancy changes many things in a woman's body, so I thought maybe at 23, now 24...I was just starting to feel my age... which to most seems ridiculous. I have had headaches the past year and my caffeine consumption has increased dramatically. I have actually lost weight on Mirena, however I can't seem to lose the belly pooch, so I will see if I lose anymore after the removal. I have been so irritable in the last couple years. I have had previous problems with depression, pre-mirena...but have had more trouble this past couple years. Granted, we have had extreme personal problems ranging from family deaths (12 in less than 3 years) to the housing market crash (House in wyoming anyone? ;)) I am starting to wonder though...is it Mirena itself...or the Progeterin. I took Progesterone based BCP before having my baby..I was depressed a lot!! So maybe it is the hormone, not just the IUD. I usually respond very well to prescriptions, but I don't think I will try do a Progesterone based BCP again. I will see tomorrow if my problems have been associated with the IUD. I am not saying it is or isn't yet...If it is anything, I am sure it's the hormones, at least for me. I will see tomorrow! I will also keep the possibility of a copper IUD open, however will do research on it, just as I did on Mirena. Has anyone had the same type of reaction (depression, weight gain) on a BSP like Ortho Novum? Just curios to find the answer, maybe it will help others make better BCP decisions.

I don't know what is wrong with you people but its like you can't handle anything. I had the mirena put in November last year and yeah ok i had cramping for the first month or so and yeah i had spotting. But unlike some of you fools i knew what the side effects were i read what came in the package which means i knew what to expect before i got it put in. And yeah there are loads of possible side effects but if you read everything and know what could happen you shouldn't complain if something does happen. Not everyone who has the mirena has these things and for people who are considering it i would recommend trying it and after 3 months if it doesn't feel good then get it removed. That especially goes to people that have just had a baby... i mean really in the first 3 months after having a baby who is really seriously interested in sex right away. The reason i am here was to see if there was more information about them now because UNFORTUNATELY i had to have mine removed for an operation. I had a cyst on my fallopian tube which was not mirena related. In fact almost all women get them when they are menstruating but they go away. Unfortunately with me they don't go away and this is the 2nd cyst to be removed in 3 years. I am planning on getting a second mirena inserted next week. Because frankly i find it ideal. And yeah i may have had mood swings on occasion while i had it but come on think about it what woman doesn't have mood swings. So sure you can blame everything on the Mirena but for the most part besides then for the people where the mirena got stuck or moved during the time you had it... its all in your head. And like i said before i would recommend the mirena and if after 3 or 4 months it doesn't suit you then go for something else... but don't dismiss it because some people have too much time on their hands and like to spend it whining over everything on the net. Remember with the Mirena you have a 50/50 chance of having symptoms or not. Take that risk before taking the risk of going on the pill and forgetting to take it or going on depo provera and putting on 20 pounds.

I am so glad that i found this site. I was feeling like i am going CRAZY! I got the mirena after my third child Oct 2005. I can't wait to have it removed!!!! My story started by going to the doctor to find a good birth control. My doctor suggested the mirena, it sounded like the perfect method for me...up until today Oct 2008, i thought that it was perfect.
After the insertion everything was great until i started to feel like i was always pregnant(tender breast, nausea and vomiting, weight gain, and dizziness). I would report to doctor, have test run, simply told that i might have a stomach virus. Symptoms would come and go alone with now major hair loss, constant yeast infections, sore limbs, greasy oily skin, unexplained sweats, losing of 30 lbs, but gaining back 10 lbs in a month, bloated stomach, mood swings, unexplained sadness/depressions!!! I use to have long thick hair, but now i barely have any. My scalp is so sore and my hair is very dry and brittle. I thought that maybe i was just stressing myself and needed to take it easy. I started to grow very tired, drowsy with blurry vision, stressed-out, even slipped into deep depressions about any and everything. I would blow up on anyone for anything. I am so not feeling like myself....
After several OB-GYN and Dermatology appointments, I came to the conclusion that it might just be my so called "perfect" birth control. I expected my doctors to know the exact reason after i mentioned by birth control but they would always say that it was not likely to be the mirena. I will be having this removed this week. I just hope and pray that everything goes back to normal including all my beautiful thick hair.

I've had the Mirena for over 3 years now, I've been going to the doctor for some pelvic pains and she referred me to the obgyn whom i saw yesterday i go back in and see him at the end of the month but he is almost convinced that my pelivc pain which worsens with sex is being caused by my mirena. is there anyone else who has had this problem?? my pcp seems to think that the pains are more related to endometriosis.

i had mirena put in about 5 weeks ago. it didn't even hurt going in or anything. i honestly didn't feel it....i had my share of light cramping about 2 hours after. and i've bled on and off some but it has never been bad. its not written anywhere that you won't have your period just most people won't. i haven't gained weight. i've gotten a few pimples but everything else about me is the same as b4. i've had such bad reactions and everything else with the pill,depo shot,the ring. mirena is so far the best i've tried. i see a lot of people on here have problems. but i honestly think this is the best thing that has ever happened to me. i feel better than i ever have. i can deal with a couple pimples for the knowledge that i am protected. i have been with my fiance for 3 years and we have 3 children (1 was mine b4 we got together) neither of us wanted surgery and we agreed that maybe later on we would like children and i looked into it and i really did think it was going to be horrible but given i had such bad reactions with everything else that was expected. but i was wrong. not everything or everyone on here is wrong but there are some people like me who don't have any problems at all and are very happy with this. i just wanted others to hear my experience and know not all is bad. you don't know till you try.

I've had it for about 3 years. I didn't have any problems with the insertion. I can't believe all the problems that people are having. It's been nothing but a joy for me. My periods have stopped. I haven't gained any weight. Everything on this site is just plain scary. I have a few friends that also have Mirena and they love it too. Sorry you other ladies are having such a hard time.

i got mirena 3 years ago. i have felt bad every day since. never thought it could be linked to this device. i have had every symptom but hair loss and flakey skin. its been awful. i found this website last night. and it all clicked. the moodiness, fatigue, heartburn and palpitations, joint pain, headaches, nasal problems. hands going numb, i thought there was something really bad wrong with me. but since reading these blog. i know that i should start feeling better soon. I had it removed today. My husband and I want another baby. i had no idea this device mirena , is what caused all my problems. i even got so weak that i didn't feel like moving. had to force myself to get out of bed. so thanks everyone for this website.

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Let me just start out by saying that I am so glad that I found this website!!!

I am 22 years old and have a 3 year old daughter. After giving birth to my daughter, I opted for the Mirena as my choice of birth control because of how convenient it was. I have never been good with remembering to take a pill everyday, so this seemed like the perfect option for me.

When I went in to get the IUD inserted it hurt like hell.The months to follow were not very pretty either. I experienced cramping, general pain in the abdomen and irregular bleeding. My doctor assured me that many women experience the same side effects the first few months, and that the pain and bleeding would eventually get better. It did...but the other side effects didn't.

For the past three years, I have attributed the following side effects to the changing lifestyle of becoming a mommy and a very hectic and stressful career. I have experienced severe lethargy and fatigue(even after getting a good night's sleep and sometimes a nap), decreased lebido(again, I am only 22 years old!), nausea after intercourse, feelings of being constantly bloated, 20 lb weight gain(after the baby was born!), irritability, feelings of being angry for no reason at all, measurable hair loss, extremely dry skin, facial and all over body acne(I have NEVER had a problem with acne until the past year). Honestly for the the past 3 years and especially int he past year, I just feel like crap. Almost like I felt when I was pregnant! I can't tell you how much money I have wasted on pregnancy tests in the last 3 years, because I have not had a period and I know that at 22 years old I should not feel like I am 60!

My husband told me not to have the IUD inserted, and he has been begging me to have it removed ever since then. After reading the blogs on this website I realize that my husband is right(darn!).
I am making an appointment immediately to have this thing removed. I am hoping that I will soon be feeling like my old self again. Good luck to everyone who has had this damn thing inserted. It is definitely not for everybody!!

This site has made me realize that I am not crazy. Well, now I am... But not for long, I have had my Mirena since 2/2005 after the birth of my daughter. Yes, there was a lot of cramping at first and the insertion was awful. The Dr. reassured me that I would begin to feel better and gave me time frames as to when cramping and bleeding should stop and may even stop completely. Wow, this is great! I thought... I nursed my first year and at the 6 month mark my production slowed. I've heard this was normal. I was proud that I had gotten down to the pre-baby weight. No credit to Mirena. This was strictly due to nursing and some exercise. At the year mark I became more and more irritable, per my husband. I was Forgetful or should I say had difficulty holding conversations due to forgetting simple words... I was depressed and just plain mean... He was right. I didn't notice until he said it, I was angry all of the time. I was reluctant to go on any pills; I feared I would be labeled as crazy. So, instead of meds we ended up needing to see a marriage counselor. Yep, after 5 months of babbling about my childhood and bringing about a normal conversation with my husband again, I end up taking medication. I had been convinced this was simply a little postpartum and everybody is depressed after a baby so I was put on some generic version of Prozac (temporarily). Had some dizzy spells at work (very embarrassing). In the summer of 2006 I started have pain during sex. I could tell it was coming from the ovary. It was on my left side. Of course, my husband had to deal to with the constant feeling of rejection. I was thinking I'm just constipated and the added pressure is well... you get the idea... Hurting everything else. After a few months of this I made an appointment with my OB doctor. I had a 5 cm cyst! I was told this could burst or possibly twist. Then I am restricted to no sex and light exercise. Within 3 months that cyst burst it sent a burning sensation through my abdomen to my upper thighs. I have a lot of abdominal pain and bloating. I went in several times later but was never diagnosed with having anything wrong. Suggested to see an Oncologist (never went). Now to the current year of the Mirena... I mentioned earlier that I had lost all of my weight back to 114 pounds (I'm petite). Within the last 4 months I have put on 17pound and still climbing. I am having some horrible pains on the right side now which I know is the return of another one of those cysts. It must be a dozy, this one really hurts. And having acne breakouts of a teenager. So let’s review... From this post I have experienced the depression, cyst, weight gain, acne, forgetfulness, dizziness, stomach pains, bloating. I want it out I had scheduled to get it done on 7/17. My husband freaked and now has scheduled to get a vasectomy. He has asked me to wait until his procedure has been done before I go through with it. So, I am waiting but am interested to hear how soon we become normal again when all foreign objects and medications has been removed.

Here is my Mirena Story.

I was 6 weeks post partum....I had mirena inserted...it was very painful and I was not warned about that.
About a week later I noticed yellowing in the whites of my eyes which I thought could be coming from a iron def. since I just gave birth. So I made sure I was eating well and taking vitamins. I also had severe itching at night especially on my ankles and legs. Oh and sex drive was gone. It was fine the 6 weeks after birth but as soon as mirena was in it was gone!!! I went to the doctor about a month after insertion and asked to have it removed, of course my doc said it couldn't be iud causing my problems...come back in a month...So I did....within this month I started having severe anxiety, insomnia and panic attacks, to the point were I actually thought I was loosing my mind. Of course again the doc told me that it wasn't iud and prescribed me an antidepressant which I reluctantly excepted. I'm not depressed...my life was perfect before mirena!!! I finally went back for the third time and decided I wasn't leaving until somebody took this thing out of me!

Here is a list of other side effects that I had/still have!!

acne
migraines
extreme lower back pain
numbness and tingling in hands and feet
vision problems
fogginess
An ADHD type feeling
inability to focus or concentrate
extreme fatigue
feeling of throat closing up
heart racing and palpitations
night sweats
sinusitus
dizziness and light headiness
headache

The problem here is that the doctors don't even know how extreme these side effects can be and they keep telling us that it's not the mirena. PLEASE trust your instinct.....I wanted to trust my doctor but I knew in my heart what was causing my problems...I am only 1 week post mirena and I am still having a lot of my problems but I can tell a difference. DON'T LET IT GET OUT OF HAND....TAKE IT OUT!!!!

DON'T GET MIRENA...IT MAY WORK WELL FOR SOME...BUT IN MY OPINION IT IS NOT WORTH THE CHANCE THAT THESE HORRIBLE SIDE EFFECTS COULD HAPPEN.....HAD I BEEN INFORMED PROPERLY I WOULD HAVE NEVER HAD MIRENA INSERTED!!

Good Luck Ladies!!

Hi - just to say firstly, I have my mirena in for almost a year and a half and am hoping to have it out next week, before I kill someone!! So I am in no way 'pro' mirena.
just wanted to comment on your hair loss posts- after my first daughter, this happened to me too, without mirena. I actually had bald patches and was super paranoid. My hairdresser told me that this is very common in the few months after giving birth - the hormones are trying to rebalace and this unfortunately is a side effect. My doctor confirmed that it was not alopaecia as I was self-diagnosing. I used to cry in the shower seeing all my hair in the drain - but now, 3 years, another daughter and mirena later, my hair is beautifully healthy again.
But on the other mirena symptoms I have. My poor husband has not had any affection in the bedroom for almost 2 months now, which is scary as we enjoyed a healthy 4-5 times a week sex life until a few months ago. My first year with Mirena was fantastic, I recommended it to friends, but the past 3-4 months have been hell. Who is this psychotic person that has taken over me???? My husband is almost afraid to talk to me some days, because I go from sweet and cheerful to a screaming, raving lunatic in seconds, without warning. The weight gain has been huge - about 45lbs in 16 months and then the days where I don't feel depressed, I look in the mirror and it makes me depressed with the huge gut I now have. I've always been a curvy lady, but I never had a big stomach and it seems that all of this 45lbs is just sitting around my tummy.
Now I have to decided to have it out, and I'm left with the dilemma of birth control. My 2 daughters are 18 months apart, the oldest just turned 3, so I don't want another baby just now. However I would like another one in the future. Pills don't work for me - I took them religiously and got pregnant with both my daughters whilst on the pill. Do I choose condoms? Would I actually stop a spontaneous moment of passion to go to the drawer to get one, lol? I'm kinda not really sure what to do. All I know is that I need to get this out next week, and pray that I find another form of birth control. But in saying that, another baby in the house couldn't be as bad as what this thing is doing to my mental health.
I'll post again after I have this out

I got Mirena put in on July 5, 07...never had a child but Dr. said since I was 36 and not planning on having children, Mirena was a good alternative to the pill which I had been on since I was 19. On the pill I had very light 2-3 day periods and with diet and exercise, could lose weight. Now, almost a year on Mirena...the only good think that has gone away from when I was on the pill is the migrane headaches that I was starting to get on a monthly basis...but, in their place...I have gained weight, tired, have acne, cramps erratically throughout month, never know when my period will show up...some months it does not, some months it lasts 4 days (like last month), and I always feel bloated - esp. in the abdomen. I've even wondered on occasion...am I pregnant?? why do I feel so bloated?? One other weird thing, since I started running this year, I get this weird sensation that I have to go empty my bladder...this also occurs while doing intense stomach crunches...but it is not incontenance..nope never have bladder problems...it is just this funky feeling - sometimes almost a burning feeling around my uterous. Have not seen anyone post this - but it did not happen before Mirena when I ran or did sit ups...now it does - doubt this is coincidence.

Some of these symptoms truely could just be simply the result of ovulating again - that is what my Dr. told me...that on the pill I never released an egg...so now my body was getting used to ovulating again. Well...if that is the case, I just can not stand it anymore...I get it removed June 26th - next week so hopefully I'll be able to post back that these symptoms are gone or have removed. Going to go on the pill again...which has its own side effects...but I sure did not have as many when I was on it. Husband has offered to go under the knife to take care of him...but I'll see how the pill does again. Hoping to reclaim my life and actually lose weight as I've been dieting and exercising while on Mirena to no avail!

Does anybody have anything GOOD to report about Mirena?

I got my mirena a week ago today. I'm not sure if i'm just being a Hypochondriac - or if I just have a lot going on in my life, but I feel that fog that other women are describing, and I swear I feel like i've gained 5 lbs in a week because i'm so bloated. ?? I scheduled a follow-up for exactly 2 weeks to discuss symptoms with my Dr. I'm scared now! I wish I read these reviews before I got the mirena!!

Had Mirena fitted 7th Feb 2008 and having it taken out on 12th June 2008. My stomach is huge despite eating sensibly and exercising. Also suffer from cramps on a daily basis, craved chocolate and have felt down in the dumps!! Can anyone tell me if having it taken out is as painful as insertion and will I bleed as much as when it was fitted. Am very nervous about the whole procedure.

Many thanks

I chose to get the Mirena IUD after my daughter was born almost 4 years ago. I nursed her until she was 6 months old. After that I started having night sweats every month around the time of my period. I called my Dr. and they said there was nothing that you could do about the night sweats. I just figured that I was having early menopausal symptoms. (I had just turned 30) I got it out about 3 years later, because I decided to have another baby. I got pregnant and had a boy about 8 months ago. I nursed him until he was 6 months also. As soon as I stopped nursing I began having terrible night sweats. I have to change my shirt every night now. I thought that maybe my body was still adjusting and changing after not nursing, but when I started thinking about the last 4 years I did some research on the internet and was totally surprised by all the complaints and side effects. I am wondering if any one else has monthly or daily night sweats. Please let me know

Hi, I decided that I would write as this site has been really helpful to me. I too have had most of the side effects as a lot of you have listed. I had my mirena in for almost 3 years and I have experienced weight gain about 15 to 20 lbs, hair loss, definite lost of sex drive, bloated stomach (and I never had a stomach before), joint pains, very bad acne on face and back, constant bladder and yeast infections, I read where someone else had rough skin on feet and I also experienced that and never had it before, palpitations,chest pain, bad back pain, dizzy a lot, and tired a lot. Well I had mine removed 2 days ago and it hurt really bad. The doctor could not find the strings at first and had to probe around for a while and eventually used clamps to find it and pull it out and I was in severe pain but the doctor did find it and got it out.When I left the doctor, I was feeling pain down there but I could deal with it and started cramping right away in office. yesterday I was cramping bad in the morning and early afternoon and then it stopped. I also felt like I was about to get a migraine for the last 2 days. I have not had any bleeding yet and at first, like the day of removal I felt "funny" in my body but now I feel okay. I think if I would have left it in longer that I would have had to get an operation to get it out. The side effects just got worse and worse.Also I posted here a few months ago maybe around 6 months ago and at that time I was having a lot of these symptoms too but didn't think it could be the mirena but the bad acne and bloated stomach and weight gain =, I knew that was from the mirena. I too, like a lot of you have been to the doctor countess times for other problems just for them to say all tests are normal. I know that my problems came from the mirena, Well good luck everybody, I will post again later after its been out for a while for an update. God Bless

I had my Mirena IUD removed on Monday, May 5, 2008. I had it inserted on November 10, 2005. I was having major side effects from the birth control, and every doc I went to said that there is no way that Mirena would cause the side effects I was having because the "progesterone amounts are too low to cause these side effects". I have had the following side effects:
WEIGHT GAIN
JOINT PAIN
LUMPS IN BREASTS
BREAST TENDERNESS
HUNGER (as if i were pregnant)
DEPRESSION
LOSS OF SEX DRIVE
HAIR LOSS
SWOLLEN ABDOMEN (BLOATED?)
HEADACHES
GROUCHY/ON EDGE
ACNE
CYST (had a couple weeks ago... i was on vacation in Vegas and had a cyst burst.. never had these issues... this was the last straw)
STABBING PAINS IN ABDOMEN AND IN AREA OF OVARIES
PMS SYMPTOMS EVERY OTHER WEEK FOR TWO YEARS
BREAST GROWTH D TO DD
VAGINAL BLEEDING AFTER INTERCOURSE
FATIGUE
TENDERNESS OF ABDOMEN
BACK PAIN
HIP PAIN

As of today, Friday, May 9, 2008 (4 days after Mirena has been removed) I have lost 9 pounds. I am sure this is probably water weight? I am feeling a little better every day. The night I got home from having it removed, I had major mood swings... would be happy one minute and crying my eyes out the next!!! I would not recommend this IUD to ANYONE.. not even on my worst enemy (if I had one). This needs to be taken off the market. It is not safe! I have spent thousands of dollars on ultrasounds on my breasts (thinking i could have cancer because the lumps i had in my breast) and on other doctors bills to figure out what was wrong with me.. only to find out that "Mirena is not the cause"!!!!

I had my first Mirena coil fitted about 10 years ago and though it had been fantastic. No worries about getting pregnant and no periods. I had take the pill before and had ovarian cysts removed so I couldn't use the pill. However, my second Mirena only lasted 31/2 years before I notice problems. I had a new one fitted and it had been ok for 3 years. Or so I thought. 18 months ago I became very ill with chronic fatigue, sickness, severe depression for which I was prescribed Prozac and then I developed Irritable bowel syndrome. I felt like I was going nuts. Nobdy believed how I felt. My job is at risk. I had a new mirena fitted a few months ago and the problems had eased although I feel that they are now getting worse again. I am considering having it removed. I hadn't made the link between the Mirena coil and my illness until recently. I have also gained a considerable amount of weight but I also had this when I was on the pill. Has any one had problems after using the Mirena for a number of years? as most people seem to have trouble straight away.

On mirena for 3 years, and had alot of changes to my body since and only recently considered that they may be all related to the mirena.

migraines
weight gain (around 3 stone)
depression
mood swings
anxiety
very bad memory
acne
lower back pain
tiredness
no sex drive
Irritability

I don't feel like ME anymore, and have let this go on for too long ( my poor family).
Need to feel human again and that life is worth living!!

Have a doctors appointment for tuesday and going to dicuss as to when i can to get an another appointment to get this THING removed! (Hopefully ASAP) My own Doctor can't remove it, unfortunately!

I had the Mirena coil removed a week and a half ago and let me tell you I have had the worst week ever!!
My reasons for getting it removed were the same as most people, very bad mood swings,always snapping at my boyfriend, depression, always bleeding, severe stomach cramps all the time, anxiety, hair loss, low libido and the list goes on... I never had any of this before the mirena.. I never realised the mirena could of been the cause until I decided to google it one day and found thousands of women had the same symptoms, everything then made sense...

I made the appointment to get it removed and immediately started taking Vit B6, Primrose oil and I have ordered 5HTP on the internet cos I cant find it anywhere... day 4 I started getting very bad anxiety and horrible suicidal thoughts, I have always been a happy person and couldnt understand what was happening to me... the whole week at work was a blur and each day was a struggle to get through.. I was continuously crying and I had these horrible thoughts in my mind that wouldnt go away!! it has been a nightmare.. its like they are stuck in my mind and I cant think of anything else but these horrible thoughts! (The weird thing is I had the same thoughts when I had the mirena inserted 2.5 years ago but they werent as bad as now and they eventually went away) I saw my doctor on Thursday morning and explained these problems and she prescribed me valium tablets to take away the anxiety... later that afternoon I had a anxiety attack and landed going back to the doctor because of these horrible suicidal thoughts in my mind... My doctor reffered me to a phyciatrist which I saw yesterday, I have never had to see anyone like this before so it was very scary for me... the shrink I saw said that there was no ways the mirena could be doing this to me.... she gave me more valium for my anxiety and now I have to see a special therapist once a week until these thoughts are cleared from my mind!
I find it very strange that all this started 4 days after my mirena was removed! I know this is all happening because of the mirena, the only thing that is keeping me going is reading everyones posts and knowing that this will go way once my hormones settle, I know im not going crazy even though it feels like I am!!
Every doctor I have spoken to will not agree that the mirena could cause any of these side effects! It makes me so mad that so many women are going through this and the doctors think the Mirena is the best thing since slice bread! How can they have no idea!!??
If anyone is thinking of getting the mirena.. DONT DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay now i'm really scared- I just got the Mirena put in yesterday, I used to get the depo and had some horrible side effects from that. I have not had any major side effects as of yet (too soon i know) except some minor cramping.
I know if any of the same side effects come back as the depo i will have this thing out so fast.
I had lost 15 pounds since stopping depo and a am so worried that will come back now that i have read all of the side effects on this page.
The one question i have is since having the mirena put in i kind of feel like i have a tampon in and was wondering if that feeling is normal or will maybe go away with time.

OMg, i dont know how i ended up in this website but I am so glad i did. I reading all this symptoms or women that have or had the mirena and is not just me, i am not going crazy my symptoms are so simililar i have no energy, no motivation to get up and do anything im loosing my mind, i feel dumb, i forget things i cant concetrate, i cant think, i have nauseas, headaches all kinds of pains, acne never in my life did i have acne issues im 27 year old i have 3 years with this thing and i have gained like 50 lbs or more i cant loose weight, i try everything, my legs always hurt, my back always hurt, i have sharp pains on my lower back and insomnia, weight gain, irritability, panic attacks, so many things i was just blaming it on my weight and depression but is so much more than that i will make an appointment with my OBgyn asap. this time im a make her take off. last times she convince me to keep it.

Wow ladies!! First off, thank you, all of you, for taking the time to share your stories.

I had my Mirena inserted mid March 2008. It is April 3rd today, and so far I'm not a fan.

Insertion was easy. I barely felt anything. Minor cramping afterwards, some spotting. The worst part was the black gritty sand like discharge. (previous poster compared it to coffee grounds) Every time I sat down or stood up I could feel the grit rubbing inside me. It was the most AWFUL feeling in the world.

I have been spotting every single day since insertion. I did have a full period (started a few days before Easter) and it lasted about a week and a half. It was moderate to heavy. I did have more than usual cramping for me. And with every cramp I felt a sharp stab in my uterus. I imagined it was my uterus pressing down on the IUD. It was very uncomfortable. Now my "period" is over and I am still spotting! Its strange though. My discharge is clear, but with streaks of purpleish/brown blood. Its not typical spotting. But i've ruined one too many pairs of good underwear so its starting to get on my nerves!!!! I thought this was supposed to STOP bleeding. I've bleed every day in some shape or form.

My one month checkup is on the 10th. I am going to express my concerns with my doctor, but I know she'll blow me off like everyone else. I am getting a lot of pressure from my husband to keep it, despite the side effects. We already have 4 children, and dont want any more for a few more years.

Other side effects I am experiencing that I can only assume are from the Mirena (they might not be, but I cant explain them any other way):

- I feel stupid! Im spacey, i cant think straight. Very forgetful. Simple jokes go over my head.
- my vision is wacky. I feel like im staring through a haze. I have a hard time focusing on objects or fine print. I have never had a vision problem before!
- i feel weak and woozy occasionally.
- extra crampy. and often feel pings and pangs in my uterus.
- increased thirst
- slight paranoia. I actually feel like all my friends are mad at me, when i know they arent.
- I sweat at night.
- moody.
- my nails are all dry and splitting. I normally have very healthy nails
- a general feeling of laziness. It takes a ton of motivation to get up sometimes. I have 4 kids and I work full time...I'm not a lazy person! I cant be! So this feeling is very frustrating!
- I'd rather sleep than have sex. which for me is abnormal. I am more of a hornball than my husband usually. hahaha

wow this list is longer than I thought!!

I'm going to give this thing more time. But so far I am not a fan. I know it works for some women....but these things were not in the little pamphlet they pass out! I guess if they were no one would get this thing!

Thanks for listening!

I'm getting mine removed tomorrow.
I got mine inserted December 28,2007.
I just about lost all my baby weight and have never had a weight problem.
I now can no longer fit comfortable in my clothes have gained about 5lbs around my belly. I swear it looks like im preggers again.
Some say oh its just bloated/water weight. Yeah well i don't want that.
My friends have even asked me that.
I really think its because of this IUD. I'll keep you all posted on how it went..

I am just one more: moody, ansy, and of course weight gain. My OB told me that the wight gain was because it makes me hungrier and to watch what I eat. BS. I don't like fast food, I don't eat after 6 PM, I don't snack between meals. I am calling him tomorrow. Mirena is coming out.
The funny thing is I am having all this simtoms and never thought of been coming from my IUD. I have to say I have it for almost 3 years and only had two periods, I love that. But its no worthy, my hubby is happier than me that I came to my senses.
I really appreciate all you ladies and husbands comments. Thank you God for putting me in this site.

Well... I have a 6 week old son and am looking for a new form of birth control. I had blood clots during my pregnancy, so I can never be on things like the pill, the patch, the shot or the ring.Our only options really are condoms or an IUD. At my 6 week PP check up today, my doctor strongly recommended Mirena. After reading this I am not too sure of what I should do. I just can't imagine using condoms for the sole purpose of not getting pregnant over the next 2-3 years with my husband of 4 years. What should I do?

Hey I'm 20 years old and ,I just had Mirena inserted in me September 07.I was skeptical to get it ,but I got it because I had 2 children in a row by c-section.I didn't want to get pregnant again right away .I notice that I never knew when or if I'm going to have my period.So that kind of freaks me out but that isn't my problem all that much .Lately after my husband and I have sex it seems like I will have throbbing sensations right after in my vagina.Ive been trying to see if anyone has this problem too,but haven't had any luck yet.I'm going to get Mirena taken out soon but I don't know when.My sex drive is like dead and Ive want to sleep more than I want too.-Courtney (Tn)

I have just turned 30 and like many of you have tried all sorts of different types of contraception, most of which have caused some sort of reaction but i was told that the Mirena would be best as so low in hormones and would help reduce the heavy bleeding that started with the implant.

For 3 years everything was fine, i then started to get spots around my jaw line and back which I've never suffered with before, bloated, tired, pilled on the pounds....not surprisingly though as i was always craving food, really nasty stomach and back aches, i started bleeding all over the place with no rhyme or reason. I went to the doctor as I thought there was something wrong and it took quite a time for me to put it all together but the doctor just thought i was being over dramatic. To put my mind at rest he sent me for a scan which showed up lots of adhesions from where i had my son.

I came home and looked the Mirena up....why i never did this before i have no idea and now am so mad with myself as i could have got this sorted out months ago...hence to say i was back down the Doctors that day to get it removed. Its only been 5 days now and i have the flu but i feel a million times better...i'm bleeding still but thats it to be expected, at least its helping to get rid of any of the hormones which are left in there. The more i read i can see that i have many other "problems" the same as many other ladies, my husband said its like i had PMT but i never believed him.

Thank you to this site as if i hadn't of read all your comments i would still be suffering. The only downside is that it looks like we will be having to use condoms (latex free which are not nice due to an allergy) till we have finished having kids. I do feel sorry for my husband but i think I've gone through enough over the last 10 years with pill, injection, implant and the coil. Roll on the male pill i say!

I came across this site when looking for information on Mirena lawsuits. I feel I should be part of one. I don't care about the money- just about getting this device off the market. Here's my story:

I had the Mirena inserted in April 2006 (eight weeks post birth of my first child). At insertion I had the usual pain. Nothing compared to birth! Within a week I was experiencing painful intercourse, foul odor, and stabbing pains in my stomach. I had lost a lot of baby weight by this time, but now that I look back, I really didn't lose much since. I worked hard just to stay at the same weight. I also developed a rash all over my body, which I later had diagnosed from a dermatologist as some sort of skin disease, usually caused by an allergic reaction- bad news- once you get it, you have it for life.

After several rounds of varying degrees of antibiotics (I was nursing at the time and for one round had to pump and dump), my doctors felt the infections were gone and I was okay. Soon though, I'm back in the office still complaining of these stabbing abdomen pains, painful intercourse, etc. My doctor tells me it's not the Mirena, it's something else. He convinces me to keep it in, after I asked to have it removed. (I'm the one who spent the money here, right?!) Now I have gone through PID diagnoses, you're in menopause diagnoses (I'm 24 at the time). They check to make sure the IUD is in place, and it is, so they basically write me off as crazy.

My next step is to go to my primary care and ask him if the stabbing pain could be something else- I do that and he sends me to a gastro doctor. I end up with a colonoscopy and endoscopy which reveal nothing wrong. After a few more months of pain, I go to a new GYN. This one says, let's do a new ultrasound and get the thing out. But unfortunately, I had to have shoulder surgery before he could schedule- so I'm out of it for a few months (and pain medicated so not feeling the pain down there).

In January 2008, I finally have the time to schedule to get the IUD removed. I get it out and it's not painful at all and I don't even bleed. I start menstruating normally again (hadn't had a period most of the time I had the IUD in). A few weeks later I start hemmoraging. I get an ultrasound. I have a mass on my uterus. I have surgery to get it removed. Biopsy comes back. It's benign (praise God). But, it's inflammatory tissue, cause from the IUD. More money down the drain and more time and mentally draining. Basically, the IUD got so infected that the tissue formed around it and attached to my uterus. YUCK.

Now I'm not one for lawsuits, but if ever there was a product that shouldn't be on the market- I'm going with the Mirena IUD. Every girlfriend I have that has had it, has had it removed within the first year (save my mother- but she had that old IUD in her for over 20 years-another yuck).

It's a money making machine for doctors and the drug company. And it's a super-pain. I'm feeling so much better and I'm losing weight again! Now if I could get rid of this rash! (Not likely!)

I had my Mirena put in on the 21st January 08. I am constantly feeling nauseous! So I don't eat as much, maybe 2 meals a day and I am usually sick if I have any form or food and drink after 8pm. Despite this I have not necessarily gained weight (1lbs) but I have gained so much fat. I have never been this big. I don't fit my fat jeans I wore 3 years ago. I cant wear the jeans I wore 2 years ago. And all the pairs I lived in from last January (07) or even august do not fit. At all. Constantly bloated. I have itchy legs. Keep getting upset. (I rarely cry). Got a few spots, nothing terrible, but I never get spots. And I cannot sleep. My doctor has prescribed sleep meds for 6 days but thats it. I keep getting cramps, dull cramps... I had one hideous one once put in, then it was normal dull cramps. My body hair has got on darker... Problem is I forget pills, and depo hasn't works (also bad reaction to hormones (no implant, don't want it) I have got pains in my legs, but its not all the IUD

hi all reading this,
I have had a Mirena for 3 years now, within my first 6 month checkup for this device I was still getting continued pelvic pain which the specialist stated just needed to allow my body time to get use to the device. This still continues up until now. I sometimes can almost feel the device, which sounds weird, but for example if I have a severe cold and cough, with the flu, when I cough i can feel it move or change somehow and its unpleasant and uncomfortable. I am also back to experiencing all the same symptoms that occurred when I first went to the specialist, along with loads of new ones such as severe headaches, mood swings, some bowel issues, nausea, etc. I'm sure others have also had these. Anyway now I am waiting to see a specialist, Ive been waiting for months as my appointment keeps getting changed to defer it. I also went to a private specialist about 8 months ago, asked him to remove it, he refused saying that I would be back to where I was in terms of symptoms before I had the device inserted. The use of this device it now seems to me is questionable for some women, and for some conditions. It seems an alternative that is being prescribed for large numbers of women now, as I have some work colleagues who also have the device. But it has to make you wonder just how successful this type of alternative is proving to be

I am 23 years old and 1-11-08 made one full year with the Mirena. In October of 2006 I had a miscarriage, so in January 07 my doc inserted the Mirena. For the first 6 months every single day I had a light period. My doctor told me it was normal and to give it time. I started having stomach pains daily, mood swings. For some reason the right side of my stomach is hurting around my ovaries. I had my doctor schedule an ultrasound. (I am waiting on results) The pain was so bad to where I just stayed home. I would always be in pain, either back or stomach. I lost my sex drive from constantly having some type of discharge. I'm only 23 this is not normal! When ever I did the next day I would be in extreme pain. I gained 35 pounds mostly around my stomach. I have no energy and its hard to sleep. I even started to get depressed because no doctor could tell me what was happening. I didn't want to go thru the pain of a miscarriage so I put up with the pain daily. I can't take it anymore and after two years to see if this would work I am having it removed. I told every female I know not to get this, and my BFF did anyway and is now going thru the same thing. I had never been on BC before and don't think I will try again. This was very bad on my relationship of 3 years. I should let my boyfriend write his experience with it from the outside looking in. He was the one that had to deal with it for a year.

I had my Mirena IUD inserted in January of 2003, The doctor had some issues placing it and got it to stay on the second painful attempt. I spotted that day and the next but no more. I haven't had a real period in years. Occasionally over the past year or two I would have spotting lasting no longer than an hour or two. No real cramping to speak of but I have added about 15 pounds over the past 3 years and I had not changed my diet or exercise and am not even 30 yet. I have gotten emotional beyond my control a few times unexpectedly leading me to wonder what is wrong with me. I have had extreme dandruff in just one small area for the past 2 years and overblown allergic reactions to my normal allergy triggers for the past 2 - 3 years as well. I put off getting the IUD out because it has been easy to dismiss all these as superficial, unrelated, etc....I went to have it out and they can't find the string now. At this point I have to go for an ultrasound so they can find out if it is up in my uterus or if it perforated and is beyond my uterus somewhere.

I had the Mirena in for a month and a half. Just before Christmas I had my blood pressure tested and it was high but not dangerous. Never suffered from blood pressure before and it was fine when I had it fitted. At my six week check up I told my Doctor that I felt like everyday was the day before my period. Bloating, cramps, aches and pains, lots of mood swings, hated been touched, and anxiety etc. She did not hesitate and took it out then and there and said that in her experience when you react like this the symptoms will not improve. In saying all this my girlfriend had once in for 3 years and did not have any problems. It has been six days and my blood pressure is still high. They are monitoring it on a daily basis. Has anyone else had high blood pressure and hot flushes during and after having the Mirena out?

I have had Mirena since July. I went through a lot of life stress this past fall (moving to a new city after 10 years, being separated from my bf during this time for two months, etc) but I really think Mirena is not right for me.

I am bloated all the time, my periods are erratic, I am more moody than usual and I have NO sex drive. Worst of all, I think I'm pregnant ALL THE TIME. I just don't trust this thing and I literally drive my man nuts worrying about being pregnant. I also have developed some pimples (like on my back, upper arms, etc) that I never had a problem with before! I have gained a few pounds as well.

I feel like a putz spending all this money but I really want it out. I feel like I should "give it more time" but really, what is the point?

I've had my Mirena for about 15 and a half months and I am having it removed today at 2 o'clock. At first I had sharp pains when I would sit down and I felt like the cords were poking me and irritating me. My OB/GYN requires patients to come back one month after having it put in so he can check it and make sure it is still in place. At this visit he also trimmed the cords although he acted like he didn't believe me when I told him that I could feel them poking me when I sat down and that it hurt. At first I didn't notice any bad side effects, but I did have one good one: my periods stopped, but I still had occasional and sporadic spotting. I didn't think to look for any bad side effects because I got the device under the impression that it had no bad side effects. I thought it only had a rare complication of perforating the uterus, but since mine was in place at the one month check, I didn't think about anymore until I started thinking about having another baby recently. I went online to see if I had to have a doctor remove the Mirena or if I could do it myself, and I found out that it's best done by a professional because bad things can happen and then you'd have to go to the doctor anyway. Plus, I didn't want to hurt my chances of having another baby. While online I discovered this whole world of message boards where women were having a lot of the same problems I'd been having in recent months and they all blamed their Mirenas. Some claimed that their problems had gone away since having it removed. I never thought to link my circumstances to the Mirena, but when I saw how many women are having the exact same problems as me I knew that I needed to go ahead and get mine out ASAP. Here is a list of my side effects, and I've found other women have had them as well with Mirena: weight gain, bloated stomach, depression, short temper with husband and daughter, acne, low sex drive, spotting, cramps, constipation, and back pain. There may be more, but I can't remember them all right now. Some of them may not even be related to the device, but I've read of so many women with Mirena who are having or have had the same issues, so I suspect a link between my problems and Mirena. I hope this helps someone out there looking for answers. God Bless!

Wow, this is all pretty scary. I'm 44 and had the Mirena inserted 3 years ago. Man it was so painful. I was warned beforehand though. I am childless and my family Dr. thought it would be best if a GYN did the insert so I choose that route...and there was one in her office. The pain of having that inserted was pretty severe but I've never been in a hospital or even had a broken bone so I just chalked it up to me being a wimp. If I take a step back and think about it, I've been fortunate enough to never have experienced PMS or cramping....I just had hormonal migraines for years. This was my reason for going with the Mirena as per my Dr's suggestion. I was not told to wait until I started my period, just to get the prescription filled and make an appointment. Thankfully I had insurance because that is one expensive puppy.

Aside from the constant cramps (which a friend pointed out were menstrual cramps), I had this incredible pressure in my lower right side. Sort of felt like a ball wedged into my ovary or something. My migraines went away immediately though and for that I was grateful. Then the weight gain hit and I spoke to my Dr. about it and she advised that it had no connection to the Mirena. Next came the lack of energy and tiredness. Again I was told it had nothing to do with the Mirena. By this time I am gaining weight, can't even go for a walk and don't even want to think about sex. I've sprouted facial hair that is very embarrassing and get cranky at the drop of a hat.

After 3 years of having the Mirena I am finally beginning to connect the dots. I spoke to my new family Dr. and asked her if she thought these changes to my body could be related to my IUD...without even knowing what I had, she asked me if it was a Mirena. When I said yes, she ordered up some blood work to see what changes have been occurring to my body. Prior to my getting the Mirena my original Dr. told me that my testosterone level was very high so I must have a good sex drive. Now I don't even want to think about having sex as I am too dry and not interested. I've had to ensure my partner that it is not him or has anything to do with how I feel about him.

I hope once my blood work comes back that I will get some answers to my medical issues. If I have to have this thing out, I hope it is not as painful as it was going in. And, if I have to have it out I hope my migraines don't come back.

I have been on mirena now for 10 months. I was on the depo for 10 years prior. I loved my depo adn only went off of it after Kaiser said I could not do it any longer. I was told that mirena was a god send and a lot like my depo. I can say that the combination of depo and mirena I have not had any period at all. but that is where the happiness ends. I have experienced moths of breast pain. it hurt to touch them let alone put anything on them. after about 6 months and numerous trips to the vet it disappeared. then I got a small rash on my neck and by my arms. went to dermatology and since then I have been there, or to my primary or an allergist every week since then. the rough severley itchy skin is constant. remarkably every 29 - 32 days it fades for 2 days or so and just when I am sure it is going away wham back it comes and each time it is getting worse and worse. having never had any skin problems before I believed the doctors tha tit was folliculitus, then they said dermatitus, then they said uticaria and then hives or the last straw i was causing it that it was in my head. i just got a new allergist and while she doesn't knwo if it is my mirena she can tell me I have histamine levels that are off the chart. my husband is allergic to a lot so we already use free & clear everything and my housse is spotless but I am still being told it is soemthing I am doing to myself. I have also been reevaluating my things and I relaize I have been experiencing a lot of numbness and joint pain. so much so that my primary sent me to a rhuematlogist and he ran every test for lupus, and many other diseaeses adn even cancer. I was going crazy. Iwas beginning to think maybe I was mental. I have since been researching mirena and I am finding it so much more than what the pamphlet says. I finally got the nerve to call my ob, adn she ahs since been researching things with me and we know for sure that no matter what next week I get my mirena removed. I am just feeling so alone and depressed. I am 33 years old and instead of enjoying my new marriage I am contemplating a divorce becasue I do not want him to be stuck with soemone who might be crazy. seeking support and anyone else who feels this way.