Remeron and bed time

I have been taking Remeron for about a year and a half. I started out with
30mg at bed time. It helped eating habits and helped me sleep. However I started gaining Weight big time. I am a 52 year old male and weighed 130 Pounds before taking the medication. I now weigh 196 pounds and have cysts on both of my breasts. I went to see a cancer clinic and was told there was no cancer ! Thank GOD , However the doctor told me it was a possible side effect of the Remeron. So I stopped taking Remeron cold turkey
2 day's ago and so far so good. I hope I don't have any withdrawal from stopping but I WILL NEVER TAKE IT AGAIN !!!!!!

My father who is going to be 80 on July 15th started taking remeron back in January of 2008 for depression he was in and out hospital and rehab since October. He almost died in October but he fought his way and hes physically doing better now. He was put on remeron cuz his depression was so bad that he just wante to give up, he started on half a pill at bed time..(7.5 i believe) he was doing his exercises and again..he bounced back from a deep depression within days :) February 7th 2008 my dad finally came home after being away for 4months he became very very talkative like hyper, couldn't sleep and got agitated very easily(thats not my dad) on June 18th 2008 the doctor that comes to the house asked what was going on..i told her HES NOT SLEEPING..and hes very like hyper, so she INCREASED HIS REMERON!!! full dose 15mg. well.. July 2nd things changed for the worse, He talked about things that happened years ago, he went as far back as the days of THE DEPRESSION..yeaaaars ago;
just things he never talked bout before...July 3rd he was showing signs of being VERY LOST..VERY DISORIENTED...like he would get up to use his potty(as he calls it) and thats rite next to his bed, and he went rite past it and into my kitchen way. just standing there, NOT KNOWING WHERE HE WAS. and he would repeat himself over and over and over, not remembering what he said, :( very sad )
The 4th of July i had him taken to the HOSPITAL to be checked out cuz he just wasn't acting right, i thought maybe he was on the verge of another stroke his BP was 150/101 HIGH....i think maybe cuz of the agitation,(HE GOT MAD...DIDN'T WANT TO GO TO THE HOSPITAL: )but i needed to know what was going on..they sent him home, they said possible early dymentia, NOT..i don't agree....june 18th -july 2nd IS EXACTLY 2 WEEKS..WHICH IS HOW LONG IT TAKES FOR MEDICATION TO GET INTO THE SYSTEM...i believe its the REMERON causing these problems.i took him to his psych and he asked my what was it increased? i said the doc increased it cuz he wasn't sleeping, well the psych was NOT HAPPY wit this...he was like U CANT DO THAT ITS NOT FOR SLEEP ITS FOR DEPRESSION..U DO THAT AND UR GONNA HAVE BIG PROBLEMS.... Well thats exactly what we are having.So then i was told to decrease him back down to 7.5 and if no change in a week -2 weeks...to stop it...well im stopping it tonight. I am hoping to see him better soon..if anyone agrees with me PLEASE LET ME KNOW...he was perfectly fine b4 the increase in this medication...BESIDE THE EXCESSIVE TALKING..but i am willing to deal that..i just want him back to the way he was. Its soo frustrating and sad to see him this way :(

My husband has been taking Remeron for about a week. The first effect was, totally knocked out and slept for almost 24 hours. That soon wore off and now he is abusing the drug he takes not the 2 at bed time but 4 throughout the night. He has used up 22 pills in one week. He is not sleeping at all and is extreamly diffacult to live with. He is edgy & rude to me and our 16 year old daughter. He feels like he can do and say anything, not just to us but to anyone. He also had nightmares and talked all night in his sleep when he was taking 30mg a night. I hate this drug and what it is doing to our family. My husband has a brain injury(1988) but he has few motor skill problems just depression and cognitive trouble. Has anyone had suicidal thoughts? He has had them in the past and I'm hopeing we won't have to go through that again. He cut his wrist in 2001, and spent 2 weeks in the mental hospital. I know this is an extream case but I need help.